http://www.mangago.me/read-manga/beauty_pop/ (this one fits your description fairly well, except it's not genderbender)
http://www.mangago.me/read-manga/warau_kanoko_sama/ (the same as the one above)
http://www.mangago.me/read-manga/ouji_to_majou_to_himegimi_to/ (fits mostly all of them except that she's not really quiet)
http://www.mangago.me/read-manga/hana_no_kishi/ (this one kinda fits all that you described Can't remember if she was quiet or not, but i think she was.)
hope this kinda helps.
http://www.mangago.me/read-manga/say_i_love_you/
http://www.mangago.me/read-manga/ouran_high_school_host_club/
http://www.mangago.me/read-manga/kimi_ni_todoke/
Here are the mangas that have quiet but very strong mc girls that I know xD
http://www.mangago.me/read-manga/tokyo_crazy_paradise/
http://www.mangago.me/read-manga/he_s_dedicated_to_roses/
they are not that quiet though...
love in the mask (this author has a lot of gender benders. but this one is the quietest.)
Okay, so there are not many manga that interest me, so I ask of you guys to recommend me some manga along the lines of: a main character that is a girl, quiet, but very strong, and I also would like it if it was genderbender and romance. Thanks for at least reading this question!
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