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Uke and Seme

Índigo June 14, 2015 10:35 pm

Why fujoshi girls are so obsessed with sex roles like uke and seme? You know, in the gay world there are few men who are 100 % uke or seme, or top or bottom.

Only 11% of the gay men said they never bottom. And 10 % only bottom.

The rest of us are in both sides at least once.

I prefer top, but being in bottom (or being a uke) doesn't make me less man than being a seme. And it does'n matter. Only doing what you and your partner want and what make both feel great.

So, What is the big deal when someone 'who looks like a seme' plays the uke? Once upon a time I met a man with a delicate frame, nail polish and eyeliner who was one hell of top. Yes, top. Could you imagine it?

I don't understand your disappointment when a story (often a great story) didn't develope the way you want.

Responses
    Índigo June 15, 2015 4:49 am
    Hmm, not attached to who's up or down, except that I will say what I always say when it comes to romance lit: who's bottoming or topping often represents something completely different than what detached observ... I Thot You Was a Toad

    Wow, I really like yours words. I don't kow what to say.

    Just few explanations:

    I'm not trashing this stories. I was upset bc everyday I read comments like: "How disappointing is this story, I wanted this guy was the seme and he was the uke! I don't like this story"

    And if is it a good story, why you abandon it just bc doen't developed the way you want it? That is the real question for me.

    I'm like all of you, wondering who will be the uke and who will be the seme. How they will face theirs problems, if they end up together, or if one of them will fall in love with somebody else... etc.

    BTW I'm stealing your answer.

    Oh, well- June 15, 2015 4:54 am
    ε=ε=(ノ≧∇≦)ノ Here, an asian boy chased for penises!!Good for you! Never change! Índigo

    Run Asian boy, run!!
    ;v; I'm sorry.

    Índigo June 15, 2015 4:57 am
    Hmmm...never did like Sailor Moon personally. (though I do remember him) I am a voracious reader but have only discovered manga recently, and will read some limited shoujo (hate the whiny girls though) seinen, ... misekatte

    I have a thing for men in suits. I guess it's bc Mamoru or Darien. My sister and me watched it on tv, ages ago...

    I liked Bleach and Death Note as well. Argument is more important than sex scenes or fight scenes.

    helix June 15, 2015 4:57 am
    I like reversibles couples too, bc break the roles. Is noboby business how you enjoy sex. And I like when mangakas surprise me (I'm still waiting for Kirishima bottom for Yokozawa).And you are right, Manga is p... Índigo

    Oh yeah! Kirishima and Yokozawa are perfect to become a reversible couple! I'd like to see that too.

    I kinda understand why your friends don't like yaoi. I, for example don't read shoujo, bc I can't stand weak and/or annoying female characters. I just can't relate to them at all, even though I know it's just fiction.

    I feel the same about Miyamoto Kano. I love her works, because of that realism and just the right amount of drama

    Índigo June 15, 2015 4:59 am
    Run Asian boy, run!!;v; I'm sorry. @Oh, well-

    (≧∀≦)

    Índigo June 15, 2015 5:08 am
    Oh yeah! Kirishima and Yokozawa are perfect to become a reversible couple! I'd like to see that too. I kinda understand why your friends don't like yaoi. I, for example don't read shoujo, bc I can't stand weak ... helix

    Is the same feeling for my friends. But I still hope convert, at least, one of them. I don't have a boyfriend now, but I'm looking for a boy who likes yaoi, so we can share this part of my life too.

    misekatte June 15, 2015 5:15 am
    ε=ε=(ノ≧∇≦)ノ Here, an asian boy chased for penises!!Good for you! Never change! Índigo

    Hahaha - I thought it was floating penises as well (that or some strange farts) that were chasing the emoticon. Now that is all I see!

    helix June 15, 2015 5:32 am
    Is the same feeling for my friends. But I still hope convert, at least, one of them. I don't have a boyfriend now, but I'm looking for a boy who likes yaoi, so we can share this part of my life too. Índigo

    Heh, I try to convert my friends to yaoi too, but they still resist (╯°Д °)╯╧╧

    Good luck with finding your perfect (fudanshi) man :)

    kurobina June 15, 2015 7:10 am

    Yes actually I wonder about world of yaoi and the real world are different in that aspect.

    Cryonaut June 15, 2015 7:11 am

    If the couple's great, I usually don't particularly care. But then again, some are just so clearly spelled out who's taking which "role." If it's not what I expected, then that's even better! I love surprises. Like when a tough looking "seme" type turns out to be the uke, I still cheer because WOO hot scenes! I'm just looking for blushes and *ahem* naughty bits. It never really occurred to me that lots of people really care that much about roles as long as I see something *ahem* fun.

    And reversible roles are even better since it's rarer in the yaoi world. I just enjoy yaoi that has a great plot and art. Everything else just kind of falls into place. (Though I do get a bit irritated when some semes refuse to be ukes despite the requests of their partners. I mean, if you really love the other person, wouldn't you be willing to do even that? Unless of coursez there's a valid reason. But otherwise, I'm completely fine. I haven't encountered any disappointments in yaoi in particular other than plot...)

    Índigo June 16, 2015 3:00 am
    Heh, I try to convert my friends to yaoi too, but they still resist (╯°Д °)╯╧╧Good luck with finding your perfect (fudanshi) man :) helix

    Thank you!!!