Yaoi4Life

it might be “i fell in love with my sisters boyfriend”

Thank u but it’s not the one I’m looking for..

aw fuck im sorry then

Tone it down a little.

"obsession" aight. That's the problem there.

Yes ik that but I'm not that obsessed, they're the one saying that "My obsession" is too much.. but I don't think that I'm obsess, just I really talk a lot bout him

Obsessed is not the right word, true. But still. "a lot" is pretty close.

It can be tough when your friends ignore you, but I think you should really try to reach out to them, really make it apparent that you can't help your obsession but you will try to tone it down, and that you want to understand more why they think it's annoying or to much. It could be maybe something you say about him that triggers them, or maybe you just mention his name to much, or maybe you only talk about him in conversation and literally nothing else. Try to reach out and see if you can fix it, if not then just move on.

Even if you bring him up every once in a while, it can still get aggravating. I have a friend that's like this. We don't talk much, but when we do, it's about someone else in her life who's creating drama for her. I understand it's stressful for her, but after a while it just gets old.

My advice? Talk to them, apologize (even if you don't think you're in the wrong), and tell them that you won't talk about him anymore. If they still refuse to hang out with you, then it's a different problem entirely but they're using that as an excuse.

I totally get how this could annoy your friends, so if they stop avoiding you, you just have to be careful about not talking about him unless it's reaaally necessary or juicy.
If they don't stop avoiding you, make them know that it hurts you so they start feeling bad.

And worst case scenario, start ignoring them too and make some new friends.

I was on the other end of that. My wouldn't stop talking about the boy she liked she'd tell me even the simplest most pointless things like "he had bed hair today", then they dated and broke up. Then her talking about him got 100 times worse. It finally ended after a year and a half.
But even with all of that I never threatened to stop hanging out with her since I knew it was a "young people find love" and that she'd shut up about it eventually.

Like everyone else is saying tone it down, it's ok to talk about someone you like, but if that talking is the same thing every day, everytime you strike up a conversation. Then dial it down to once a week or two days. Or only when something major happens.
So just go up to them and say you'll dial it down, and try to talk about other stuff.

Simple advice: stop talking about the guy

Bras over (man)hoes

friends are more important than a fella

Guys, thx for all the advice.. yes, I did try to tone it down a little and I also did apologize to them.. I try not to bring his name up when I'm with my other friends who I still hang out with but this one friend of mine told me that she doesn't wanna get involved or hang out with me anymore cauz he's in my life

They have stated the obvious problem, so you can help solving the situation by stop talking about that guy ffs. Maybe you might as well deal with him and end this endless dilemma. Don't waste your energy and time.