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OH MY GOD FRR

No matter what his profession is, he’s still a person. Abuse isn’t so simple that someone can be impenetrable to its effect’s because they, what? Went to college? Passed the bar? I don’t see the connection you’re making.

Even someone whose job isn't to see through people's lies and manipulation can see that the seme is full of shit. Being a lawyer and reacting like this makes it even worse whether you like it or not

“Makes it even worse”? What exactly do you mean by that?

Yeah he’s still a victim of abuse. Still a person.

Indeed. Not surprised when people are unware of them being too obstinate of someones' feelings that they ended up invalidating it. And yet, they think they're more better and right. What a bunch of hypocrites. (￣∇￣")

Anybodg can be a victim of abuse, there isnt a qualification here. Have you ever heard of child parent abuse? Its where children abuse their parents, literally insane i know but theres fucked up people everywhere.

Genuinely asking this question is insane...

They mean that him being an adult withnhis life together and being abused by some kid graduating highschool is stupid. Because average people can see his bullshit from an outside perspective but the lawyer whos supposed to be smart cant.

Obviously, watching abuse and experiencing it and completely different i dont think the person who wrote this is right. Im just explaining

I mean... He is in guilt-trap isn't he? Kinda have to take care of this kid cuz his mother did it with me too once. Tahts why his mind is overlooking most of the abusive crap that Heeseo is doing to him.

True but having sex with the kid isn't proper no matter how you look at it.
He could have a long truthful talk with him and explain everything. There are so many options and he goes for having sex with a mentally unstable teen with attachment issues.

Will Heeseo willingly listen everything? Kid got abandonment issue and would just come with the conclusion that Taekyung wants to separate himself from Heeseo. And then it would just repeat his suicide attempts again. I agree that having sex is not a better option but talking ain't taking Heeseo and Taekyung's relationship any further either cuz guilt and gaslighting do the magic.

You confuse sex with rape. If we replace the words you say with rape then it sounds ridiculous right? Criticising a victim for trying to comprimise to make their experience less violent is insane considering the fact that Taekyung is clearly not mentally strong enough to deal with heeseo in any other way. Also, im sure Taekyung is worried that Heeseo will harm himself OR HIM if he says no. Youre looking at this from an outside perspective, the mental challenges Taekyung is going through to give Heeseo some sort of support imust be unbelievably difficult. He's trying to shoulder everything because he feels theres no other option, give him a break.

He gotta at least try all he does is hiding stuff that leads to misunderstandings like just talk to him about his mother I bet that would get him to listen

My point exactly. He doesn't knows what to do when meeting someone like Heeseo. He is trying to help Heeseo but in a very wrong way. Like the dude tried everything he could, but Heeseo is just way too stubborn to even listen anything. He will run away like last time and then do something dangerous. And lack of mental healthcare in South Korea is ridiculous ngl so prolly he doesn't even know whom to turn to when things are going this way. Haa poor Taekyung.

He's going through alot yes but how long is he going to give heeseo what he wants to prevent him from committing suicide again? He gotta think of some long-term solution

Ok I'll tell you my experience in handling with my dad and mom who use guilt-traps along with gaslighting. Talking doesn't stands a chance. Heeseo will always come to that conclusion. Bet he will even try to harm the new lady that has come in. And there's no misunderstandings cuz Heeseo knows Taekyung doesn't have any sorts of feelings towards him to begin with and he understands that Taekyung is trying to help him get stabilize and stuffs so he is using the stabilizing as an excuse for most of his abuse on Taekyung. He has fitted that trauma in Taekyung that "If you try to leave me, I'll do something to myself or to you or maybe the ppl around you. So don't try anything funny." dude got like zero to no chances of doing anything. Even if Taekyung taks it out, you think Heeseo will say "I understand what you are saying. But I like you and you have to take care of me too. My mother helped you didn't she?" Now what? There are too many arguments that can be bought up with the method you are suggesting.

What do you suggest tae should do?

Honestly I'm at a loss myself I don't know what author is going to do. Just prolly thinking that Taekyung might be doing something really major to Heeseo suspecting the chains that Heeseo put on TK. In attempt to free himself, he might like try an attack on HS

It might go to as far as like killing Heeseo which will add to list of Traumas on Taekyung. The only thing I can say is the ending will be similar to Killing stalking.

I dont think hes in the mental state to do that right now, though it would be amazing if he could. Hes doing the best he can.

hes so stuck up for what

Sameee bruh

He didn't really prevent him from his studies. He was still able to go to school even after he gave birth

Yeah but barely. Also he couldn't go near male animals cuz of what the beast did to him in childhood so he could never do his job properly

fr 100%