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I swear if there isn’t some old partner who comes forward and helps our little cinnamon roll out of this situation I am going to be pissed.
This old looking man knows what he is doing and I’m pretty sure he has done it before. BDSM requires you use a safe word to keep both participants comfortable and safe, denying them the right to stop is considered abuse and rape. If a partner can not handle it then the use of safe words will be used. Some people use the color method before engaging in scenes to determine whether or not the latter is willing and ready to do a scene while still having a safe word.
BDSM does not require you do something you are uncomfortable with or something that you can’t handle that’s why people use and have safe words. They may seem pointless but they let your doms or master know when something is too much and you need to stop.
He is being lied to about BDSM and I’m pretty sure this isn’t the bastards first time doing this. If some are wondering why he doesn’t look up the rules of a BDSM relationship here are some reasons.
1. The old looking man clearly made him trust him at the beginning but slowly made it seem like quitting or asking for a break was wrong. Letting him think that he is supposed to take everything that is dished out to him.
2. He trusts him too much to believe he would lie. Trust goes far and can be built up on may things like fear and respect. But their trust was built up on gaslighting. Gaslighting does not have to be verbal in most cases it is but in his case I think it was both. He’s made him scared of him but also dependent enough that he doesn’t want to upset him or make him disappointed. He is clearly gaslighting him by what he said in chapter 18 near the end ‘I don’t need a dog that won’t listen’ like dude wtf. He is making him think that he doesn’t need him to make him think he is doing something wrong so that down the line he will be more complicit and compliant.
3. First time being a DOM or Master. This may actually be this old looking mans first time doing BDSM. He may have enjoyed the thrill of being in control and decided to try it will someone else. Introducing our cinnamon roll. He could have been an DOM but not necessarily in the sense that is was a BDSM relationship. One of his past sex partners could hav introduced him to it stating the basics but not stating guidelines and protections for both parties involved. He is only doing this for control he clearly has had control over everything in his life but now that our cinnamon roll is doing his own thing he feels like he is losing it.
Sorry this is just me ranting people commenting on another story and victim blaming got to me. Also please make sure if you are considering looking into or participating in a BDSM relationship that you do it with someone experienced first