Terrry's Topics (28)

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Just curious, but how exactly do you go through a trauma "responsibly"? I know therapy and talking about it helps a lot of people, but everyone handles things differently. Besides, his trauma literally happened minutes before Vincent got so upset with him. Vincent has the right to be worried for his friend, and he is a good guy so far. However, time frame-wise this is not the time to be manhandling Joseph or pushing him to talk about things he isn't ready to talk about.

What im talking about is when someone had broke into jospehs house and he just brushed it off like nothing happend..Although Vincent did yell at him- Jospeh should know it was because he worries for him deeply.

Maybe its just common sense for me but they couldve all gone about the problems differently, but Jospeh is still a headass
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I agree that they could have all handled everything differently and Vincent is worried about his friend, but what Joseph said after being attacked by the professor is true, too. It is his life, and he gets to choose who to tell what about it. He should have gotten help, but he's trying to keep up the appearance at least of being strong and independent. It's also a lot more difficult for a guy to ask for help in situations even remotely resembling this one. Society puts a lot of pressure on men to stand up for themselves. Even if the idea of machoism is gradually changing, it hasn't changed enough or in certain areas to make it easier for men to seek help when being stalked or attacked. I haven't seen anything so far that actually makes me think Joseph is being a "headass". You might react differently in his situation, but I think his reaction has been fairly commonplace so far.

its extremely insensitive of you. people who are dealing with traumatic effects dont act rationally when it comes to "triggers" (that word annoys me since its used in a more meme sense these days but its the best word for this situation) and maybe you dont understand it but ive gone through similar things. maybe not to the degree of joseph in this manhwa, but when someone does something that reminds you of a traumatic event that happened to you, often youll react in a way that cant be easily explained within reason. its sad but to me joseph is justified reacting the way he did to vincent considering what just happened. its not vincents fault and joseph knows that but he still cant help but react like that because hes afraid

You talk as if im being ignorant, Ive had some pretty grotesque things happen to me that Id rather not talk about too. I don't have a "trigger" for them and while I do keep it to myself and not tell others, I dont worry my friends and keep them on the sidelines worried. And if they were to ask if I were okay Id say something even if it were very vague instead of yelling at them saying, "its my life I dont have to tell you" It seems immature to me. As Ive said before, everyone is differnt and go about these things differently. In my case he couldve handled that problem more maturely without yelling and running away. Keep in mind that this is a manhwa...im not gonna argue about this ╮(￣▽￣)╭

I stand by what I say
Joseph need some help
And still a headass in my case
But go off sis <]:D

that's my issue with Joseph as well I can completely understand that everyone processes trauma differently. Secondly that people are entitled to their privacy and are not required to disclose information they are not comfortable sharing. However with how long Vincent and Joseph have known each other Joseph's behavior rather than simply a direction reaction from his triggering experience comes across as rather petty and immature. I don't know if it's the author's intentions but that was how I interpreted the moment.

I think you’re the one being an head ass sis i rest my case ;)

Like what you said you have had bad experiences too so you experiencing it in the first hand should know better than others that every one is different on how they deal with such situations and that every one has their own coping mechanism like Joseph being defensive and such. You have no right nor any one to judge it and call someone dealing with traumatic event as ‘being immature’. What he said might be wrong for you but just like you said if were in the situation you would tell your friends and etc. but then again that’s you.

I don’t usually bother with this kind of arguments because like what you’ve said it’s just a manhwa and maybe it is but what bothers me the most is how you look in this as i know a ‘joseph’ in real life so calling them a ‘head ass and immature’ ain’t it. Although i do agree with some of what you’ve said you could have worded it better.

Lmfao understandable i guess.

Theres just too many ways in which he could have prevented actions. (Like the teacher incident, that was throwing red flags everywhere..)//

I keep repeating myself but hear i go once again..In my case he could've handle his problems better instead of running from them. IE: someone breaking into your house and brushing it off, running away from an open ear, and lets not forget about not being cautious of his surroundings. These can potentially cause his downfall sooner or later. In anyones case, the ways that the teacher treated him would send red flags to anyone...or its just me?
But I get everyone is different, but just because I understand that everyone is different--doesnt mean I agree with their ways.

I dont usually comment either bc ppl always start an argument bc their views are different. Which i completly understand. But its a social platform for a reason. Just bc my opinion is unfavored by someone doesnt mean im inconsiderate or rude. Im stating my opinion bc its what i believe. Obviously the mass audience that liked my comment thinks the same...so they think he's a headass too <]:D

Nah. I understand completly Joseph's réaction. Years ago, i was raped by a very very close friend and, even if i did know that all of my guy friend was't like that, i couldn't bear to be touched or alone with a man. It was in my chest and i couldn't fight with it.
Joseph intimaty was violated by a guy. I understand that the thing that you can't have your own secret garden, that even your best-friend yell at you to know zll of your life, it can make you crazy.

Of course there is consent. Do you believe otherwise? Why?

They both agreed on it so it is consensual. Not all sex has to bring pleasure and happiness. He wants to release his frustration by having sex with the alpha. Also the alpha agreed to have sex with him. It’s not like the beta used any force or manipulation into having sex with him.

What i mean is that if heesoo was an omega, his heat would have overthrown both of their rationality or at least the alpha, like in the main couple's case. Which isnt consent.

I know what really happened in the manhwa was consensual. Im just trying to prove my point bc its bugging me (=・ω・=)

This question would have been better asked in the earlier chapters with the main couple. On many occasions the scenario you described occurred.

The whole point of this chapter is no heat sex.

If you want to discuss consensual sex pertaining to the chapter; why didn't you ask if a drunk person can have consensual sex? Then there wouldn't be all this confusion about the question.

Im confusing myself trying to explain what im trying to say. I understand theres no heat due to the fact that the heesoo is a beta. A drunk person and consensual sex isnt what im trying to ask. Im not really asking a question, more so, just explain my view on the situation as a whole.

I went back to reread the last few chapters to see if i was missing something. And I think it was that heesoo is punishing himself by having dojin come onto him? Correct me if im wrong. (〜￣△￣)〜

Or at least demisexual :^}}

he's just someone who like an other people but no the sexe of the other people

I wonder how far you've gotten

Im up to date loll
It was a couple chapters back i was referring to (=・ω・=)

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