As someone who is considered "academically talented" and as someone who comes from a similar culture, I just want to say that I really feel bad for what happened to Han Siwon. I relate to him a great amount too. We get to see from Han Jiwook's point of view how Siwon is good at everything and everyone around him loves him yeah? I think he doesn't consider this but talent only gets people so far, what makes a person outshines another (or in most cases, others) is effort. Siwon probably realized he had a knack for studying and tried his best. We don't actually that or Siwon's feelings behind the scene so I'm just speaking from my experience. Siwon probably doesn't have anyone who understands him. No, not "probably", we see it clearly since chapter 1. Everyone calls him boring and someone who doesn't have an "oppinion". He was utterly alone because he stands at the top, he was better at everyone else in everything, and believe me, as someone who buried hours and hours in textbooks and notes and becoming the pride of my parents, making friends is often hard. I can't speak for Siwon here, but every time my classmates talk to me, I always feel like they are uncomfortable, like I'm about to put them down or something, and somewhere along the way, the conversation somehow ends up with them saying "I wish that I'm as talented as you are". And I just want to say how I wish I could be like them somtimes. It just sucks but it's a reasonable feeling that no one wants to hang around a person that studies all the time. It's indeed "boring". Siwon was probably looking for a friend, a shoulder to lean on, and he thought he got Jiwook. And what did Jiwook do in answer to that? Hah... But I also understand that Jiwook got a lot on his table, always being the shadow of his brother (It doesn't help that they're twins). No, I don't condone the rape or the verbal abuse but it seems to me Jiwook isn't the one to "directly" set it up. No one really likes to be compared. And even if I'm always given to my classmates from their parents as a "good" example, I don't feel any better. Actually, it broke the bond I had with my childhood friend. His father likes to compare us. He's an adult, he's free to do what he wants and I can't stop him. My childhood friend doesn't actually voice his feelings but I can see how he always fakes a smile when I approach. We go to the same school but I don't actively speak to him anymore. He seems fine without me. Well, sorry for the long post. I just want to talk about my take on Siwon's situation.
Hey, just wanted to say I'm sorry for what you're going through. Feeling alone and being treated like that is no fun time... It's not anyone's fault, neither yours (ofc) nor that of your classmates'/childhood friend's (ok maybe they are a bit at fault but it's mainly their parents' fault for putting down their children like that). From your comment I take you're still in high school? Things are way different after that. Hang in there buddy
ah i know how you feel :( i agree with valja. you seem like a nice person, hopefully you've got some genuine friends you could talk to eye-to-eye with in real life!! (you could talk to me too tho!)
Honestly I feel your struggle! Even though I don't spend most of my time studying , I'm pretty good at school , and I can't tell you how many people have hated me JUST because I was better than them at something, I've lost so many "friends" , I'm always genuinly happy for others when they succeed and wish them the best , but it's not always the other way around , Even my closest friends would show me their jealousy explicitly , people will always find a way talk crap about you and you can never really trust anyone because they'll end up wanting to bring you down , I just hate people who are insecure , sometimes I'll know something and say and others will get angry at me and call me "ms. Know-it-all" , I can't tell you how many times my mom has been rude to me just because I knew something she didn't. I think it's sad how society has become , I never claim that I'm the most intelligent person out here and I always listen to others and respect them , but people always try to find a way to bring me down (╯°Д °)╯╧╧
As someone who is considered "academically talented" and as someone who comes from a similar culture, I just want to say that I really feel bad for what happened to Han Siwon. I relate to him a great amount too. We get to see from Han Jiwook's point of view how Siwon is good at everything and everyone around him loves him yeah? I think he doesn't consider this but talent only gets people so far, what makes a person outshines another (or in most cases, others) is effort. Siwon probably realized he had a knack for studying and tried his best. We don't actually that or Siwon's feelings behind the scene so I'm just speaking from my experience.
Siwon probably doesn't have anyone who understands him. No, not "probably", we see it clearly since chapter 1. Everyone calls him boring and someone who doesn't have an "oppinion". He was utterly alone because he stands at the top, he was better at everyone else in everything, and believe me, as someone who buried hours and hours in textbooks and notes and becoming the pride of my parents, making friends is often hard. I can't speak for Siwon here, but every time my classmates talk to me, I always feel like they are uncomfortable, like I'm about to put them down or something, and somewhere along the way, the conversation somehow ends up with them saying "I wish that I'm as talented as you are". And I just want to say how I wish I could be like them somtimes. It just sucks but it's a reasonable feeling that no one wants to hang around a person that studies all the time. It's indeed "boring".
Siwon was probably looking for a friend, a shoulder to lean on, and he thought he got Jiwook. And what did Jiwook do in answer to that? Hah... But I also understand that Jiwook got a lot on his table, always being the shadow of his brother (It doesn't help that they're twins). No, I don't condone the rape or the verbal abuse but it seems to me Jiwook isn't the one to "directly" set it up.
No one really likes to be compared. And even if I'm always given to my classmates from their parents as a "good" example, I don't feel any better. Actually, it broke the bond I had with my childhood friend. His father likes to compare us. He's an adult, he's free to do what he wants and I can't stop him. My childhood friend doesn't actually voice his feelings but I can see how he always fakes a smile when I approach. We go to the same school but I don't actively speak to him anymore. He seems fine without me.
Well, sorry for the long post. I just want to talk about my take on Siwon's situation.
Sorry!!! I was trying to like your comment but it went the other way. I'm sorry （/TДT)/
Hey, just wanted to say I'm sorry for what you're going through. Feeling alone and being treated like that is no fun time... It's not anyone's fault, neither yours (ofc) nor that of your classmates'/childhood friend's (ok maybe they are a bit at fault but it's mainly their parents' fault for putting down their children like that). From your comment I take you're still in high school? Things are way different after that. Hang in there buddy
ah i know how you feel :( i agree with valja. you seem like a nice person, hopefully you've got some genuine friends you could talk to eye-to-eye with in real life!! (you could talk to me too tho!)
I read your comment and I can feel your struggle however you live for your sake not for your parent's sake.
Honestly I feel your struggle! Even though I don't spend most of my time studying , I'm pretty good at school , and I can't tell you how many people have hated me JUST because I was better than them at something, I've lost so many "friends" , I'm always genuinly happy for others when they succeed and wish them the best , but it's not always the other way around , Even my closest friends would show me their jealousy explicitly , people will always find a way talk crap about you and you can never really trust anyone because they'll end up wanting to bring you down , I just hate people who are insecure , sometimes I'll know something and say and others will get angry at me and call me "ms. Know-it-all" , I can't tell you how many times my mom has been rude to me just because I knew something she didn't. I think it's sad how society has become , I never claim that I'm the most intelligent person out here and I always listen to others and respect them , but people always try to find a way to bring me down (╯°Д °)╯╧╧