what's happened to my healthy dynamic and wholesome story( ̄へ ̄)the dom's acting like a jealous teenager and taking it out on his sub when he's literally a grown ass lawyer
the sub is clearly not enjoying this play. He said "keep punishing me" because he's insecure and terrified of disappointing his dom with the safe word, because of the dom's jealousy which seeped into the play from the start making it dubious at best. It's precisely because we can see the sub's inner thoughts that these 3 chapters are so jarring and disappointing.
I'm a sub who has literally told a dom "you aren't punishing me hard enough". I wasn't insecure or terrified of disappointing them. It was a part of my emotional catharsis for the scene. And they trusted me to know my limits and I trusted them to be a safe place to challenge those limits. I've been hit with a toy, recoiled in pain, and said "fuck, that sucks. I hate it." and then went and did a full scene getting hit with that toy. A random person could be like "she clearly hated that toy, if the Dom uses it then they're abusive and awful". Meanwhile, what they don't see is the huge smile on my face during aftercare because I enjoy that type of pain and my Dom knows that. Again, it's all nuanced and based in trust. Just like these characters trust each other enough to have something that's overall safe and positive even if it's not perfectly healthy atm.
The sub is still new and the Dom had his feelings seep into the scene, which can be a messy combination for sure. But they're both learning, making mistakes, healing, having fun, and trying to meet each others wants/needs. Do people need to know what is safe, what's circumstantial, and what's not okay? Yeah. But not every scene has to be flawlessly negotiated and executed in every single way in order to be considered healthy. And external viewers of scenes don't get to decide if the people participating in the scene are enjoying it or not.
Pretty much every single sub will experience the complicated situations of not actually knowing what they want, not wanting to let their dom down, enthusiastically consenting to the idea of something but not actually enjoying it much in practice, not safe-wording in the moment but then realizing in hindsight they should have, saying yes to something without being fully informed or having different expectations as their dom, having unplanned/ undiscussed emotions from them or their dom seep into a scene, and/or have miscommunications with the people they're playing with.
It takes time and experience to learn all these things in the real world. And if this story is trying to tell us that, great. Please show me stories of flawed people engaging in BDSM and how they use that to grow on their own and in their relationships. That's LITERALLY a huge part of what BDSM and kink are for. And if this series isn't that, that's also fine. It can just be fictional dudes engaging in kinky sex that's portrayed slightly better than a lot of kink in BL media.
You don't have to like this series or the way the author is writing things atm. That's so valid and you're totally allowed to step away from reading this. But I also wanna give my two cents for anyone else who may be reading your comments and may benefit from a different perspective.
They're definitely entitled to their opinion and allowed to interpret the story the way they are, for sure. But I also think there's a lot of nuance here being ignored/ judged.
If you enjoy this story and it feels consensual and fun for you, that's what matters. Them wanting more explicitly negotiated, detailed, and constant consent in a story is totally valid. But just because they don't feel that those things are present in this story doesn't make it unhealthy, non-consensual, or bad BDSM. What I'm trying to say is: you're right, it's not that deep. You're both valid and can continue to enjoy or dislike this story for whatever reasons you do.
I totally agree with your comment. It is nuanced and should be analyzed carefully. My disappointment is coming from having read the raws and the story ending without any of this being acknowledged or talked about again. And as far as our perception as readers goes, we only have the sub's pov, which is not great to read here, honestly. It would've been awesome if the story further explored this dynamic and showed them growing more comfortable with this kind of thing, but it chose to follow the "sudden drama fixes everything" direction, which is why it clashes so sharply with what we've been previously shown
I haven't read the raws at all, which means I clearly lacked a bunch of context in understanding your perspective so I'm glad you told me that that's how you feel about the later parts of the story. You feeling disappointed and wanting to vent about it totally makes sense and I don't blame you.
I personally think the sub's pov here in this scene is a mixed bag and could be read in a lot of ways. I absolutely get where you're coming from and why you feel the way you do, though. I also get twinges of that "is this actually enthusiastic consent?" feeling with certain bits of his internal dialogue but I'm still able to enjoy the scene for it's strengths.
As a writer I get super frustrated with wasted potential for character/ relationship growth that could have been amazing but if all I'm gonna get is decent kinky porn as brain junk food from this story then that's fine by me. I do feel sad that it sounds like it takes a drop in quality but I'm still grateful that it started strong.
I'm gonna keep reading but I'm glad to be able to temper my expectations a bit so I know not to expect a Sunstone level story or anything (and so I can be ready to edit my opinion in my BDSM kink rec list). I appreciate your response and I hope we can meet in the comments of a future BDSM manhwa and gush about how great it is together






he tian is such a brat omg