This relationship is shit. Reminds me that men ain't shit and marriage is a scam. So much could be fixed if he learns to stop being emotionally constipated and they communicate and listen to each other even about small stuff because the little details can and will become a big issue. If I wanted to cry and get frustrated over a straight couple that fight over ridiculous issues, I'd go downstairs to my parents.
It's only natural, a child will only know how to defend itself in the only way it knows how. Emotions are still growing, ideas are still forming. They are much too young to know different