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Sorry this will be a long text.
But I hope someone read this. This is my relationship problem. I'm asking help.
My boyfriend said something like this to me.
''Most RS are give and take right?
I am now very peaceful with my parents and family love
They only give me
And never look for in return
But I still need someone’s care and giving.
I am not sure I can find it in RS
May be I need good friends or I am disqualified to live alone''
So I said
''But I feel it is not right if you said you need a rs just because you wanted someone's care and giving.
What's about that person. If they feel the same as you. Are you ok with that.
If they wanted was not you. Just someone's care it can from be anyone decent how would you feel? ''
He said ''Yeah. That will be a total disaster for both of them. I mean, I want your care and giving but I don’t like you are saying that I am using you.''
So I ask '' Are you sure you want care from me? Not from your gf? It's not the same''
Then I get this from him..
''If I get care from my gf, it’s good but not good when she wants in return and saying I am using her''
So I said that's mean you didn't love her at all. He doesn't get it. Was I wrong to think that way.
I once said to him, ''you are only using me. I don't want this anymore. Because I feel he doesn't love me and care me. I wanted him to denied it but he didn't do that.
What should I do? I feel like he doesn't love me at all. I think He just needs someone who's caring and giving to him. And it doesn't have to be me. Right?
He and I are good friends at work before the RS thing. We always talk about work and life. He is like my teacher for life. When he had a hard time at work and also break up with his gf. His health was not good that time. I only take care him a few time like a normal colleague do. After a month of his break up he said he liked me. I feel awkward and avoid him. But he has a hard time so I didn't do the hard way and gradually I fall in love. After we dated he only wants care from me always want to be my first priority. But when I want was only a message from him like he always ask me when I'm busy, he said please understand him. He cannot do multitasking. Little by little I have to have absolute understanding of him but he doesn't have patience with my complaints. He still nice but you know I feel something was wrong. That's why I said he only used me. He said it doesn't feel good and he's sad about it.
What should I do? Should I break up? I feel like he doesn't love me at all. He just needs someone who's caring and giving to him. And I really feel it doesn't have to be me. I asked him but he is confused about it. What should I do?
Sorry about my long text. Please someone answer me. Give me some advice. What should I do?
Imo. Just break it off with me. Don't suffer urself anymore. Though it is easy to said than done. If you want don't care of being used just to have a memory to cherish in the future, just continue ur rs.
But honestly I think just break it off. Take the break up as a test, if he looks for u, then he might confused himself with care from friends or care from gf. If he don't, he isn't confused. He know what he wants. He just a lonely person
Aah u should breakup maybe://what's the point loving someone who doesn't love u:0
I feel like you have a good understanding of your own relationship. He explicitly told you he wants a relationship where he is unconditionally given and doesn't like feeling pressured to give back. This pressure only exist when there is no love and only ego. If you love and care about someone you would WANT to take care of the person and not always feel like doing that is a burden. Even with family you have to learn to give. He is too selfish to even care for his family. It's only natural for everyone to want to be loved. But he seems to only want this one-sidedly. When you confronted him about his selfishness, he can't even face it. In my objective opinion from your text, I say go with your heart. It seems your heart is already telling you he is not the right person.
PS: If by any chance you are blaming yourself in some way for his inability to love, please don't. It isn't just about love, your BF just isn't mature enough to care for others. It feels like he needs to talk to a therapist and fix his personality. Otherwise he will continue being a selfish ass and will end up alone.
Take care of yourself.
Relationship should have a balanced give and take. He is selfish if he wants your love but cant love you back. It will hurt u alot later on in life, so you should break up with him . Hope you get happiness and love in future.
Thank you. I think I will confront him about break up. I really love him. That's why I hesitate. But I have to give myself respect too right? Thank you so much.
Yes. Thank you. I really hope so.
It's hurt so much when it's true. Thanks. I will break up with him.
Thank you. I will talk with him about break up.
Yes. Love yourself and respect yourself. :) I hope everything worked out okay.
Looking for a title ..
It's about mc whose bf killed a girl in forest and she keep dreaming about it. I think that girl's ghost making her to dream. One of mc friend need help so mc let that fri stay at her house and that fri and mc's bf cheat on her.
Sorry if my eng cause confusion. Thanks in advance.
nope. not at all confusing. keep it up. just the word 'fri' should be 'friend'.
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