The “pathetic pride of yours” - HELL YEAH that’s the perfect wording I need for him! Stop the “I’m the poorest kid in the world I don’t want to get the one I love involved” play. Just look at the people who truly love you surrounding by your side. Stop being the coward. You guys are grown up now. Trust yourself and trust him.
This is abuse. Nth can justify it. I hope there’s a better guy showing up for Dohu