So i can't tell my friends about this and i want to stay anonymous.
I have a friend that like literally have a new bf so fast after each breakup, nah she is my bestfriend in fact, I always thought bcus she have a lot of connection maybe,cus she pretty and the type that being happy is being in relationship kinda vibe. She also often tells me how boys approach her or dm, not that i never have boys approach or Dm me but i never see the point of telling the stories of how boys approach me if im not actually getting it with them. But she always tells me all the time and thats makes me wanna say "if u don't even wanna be with them, why u answering them?" and btw the boys is not someone we know just random guys in IG.
And just now she ask me my score on final exam in highschool (ps now I'm in college), and she ask like this "is ur score 50 or sumthing? HAHAHA" and then she says "he (the new bf) got 98 on the exam." I dunno thats just makes me pissed even if she is my bestfriend.
I usually confident with my looks and personality , also i have a connection, but looking at her, that so easy to getting with men just set a new insecurities within me, and Im questioning things. Am I actually ugly?well I know Im not the pretty type but i think I'm atleast decent..
Recently I been thinking , I'm the goofy or funny friend in the friends group, and I think, maybe I'm the funny one cus I lack the pretty charm a.k.a Im the less attractive one, thats why I have to be funny and thats prove something about my insecurities.
I have total 5 bestfriend, and all of them now have bf except me and one that just broke up. Not that i mind being single , I love being independent and all but.. u know does this insecurities normal? Or i just overthinking things? Is it normal or wrong that I pissed at my bestfriend?
People in mangago that i love, reply honestly, i honestly want to know and u guys can tell me of this happens to u guys too.
you dont have to answer but how old are you? if you dont want to say ur age just give a range
hey bestie ,, insecurities r normal and we'll bring them everywhere we go but remember that you shouldnt compare urself to anyone because we are all unique and packed with distinctive traits... their win is not ur loss so dont always blame urself and think positively ok!
Well I can't give you any relationship advise since I've been single all my life but I think that you should support them no matter what. The way you described it, they don't seem toxic, I think they are just trying to gain some experience before settling down. I'm sure you are gorgeous you shouldn't doubt yourself. EVERYONE loves that one friend that can make everyone laugh and bring joy
It's normal to have insecurities but don't let them define you. Being in a relationship doesn't mean someone is prettier or more interesting, just that they met someone they wanted to date and that's it. Don't feel pressured into dating just because the people around you are dating! You should date when you find someone you WANT to date. It's normal to feel insecure about things like this, but the best thing you can do is be true to yourself. You are unique and charming whether you're in a relationship or not. <3
Oky bcus i edited the story, the comments disappear, can u guys type the respond again cus i can see the notification that i have reply but its gone
20 years old my friend
That means you haven’t find a right person yet. And take your time, not rushing to find a person like your friend did. Trust me, you don’t wanna make mistakes. Don’t worry you’re not only one feel that way, and relationship is not important but yourself. Enjoy your time until you bump into a person. (Sorry if I sound bad or rude bc english is not my first language Σ( ￣□￣||) )
Well I can't give you any relationship advise since I've been single all my life but I think that you should support them no matter what. The way you described it, they don't seem toxic, I think they are just trying to gain some experience before settling down. I'm sure you are gorgeous you shouldn't doubt yourself. EVERYONE loves that one friend that can make everyone. You are unique in your own way and you don't have to feel pressured. Take your time to meet someone you really like and if your future s/o doesn't wait for you to feel safe around them then you should find someone else. I'm sure there are a lot of people who would love to have you on their lives
Yess thankyou for the encouragement, but u know i often pissed at my best friend only this one, i dunno why, i know that i should have not pissed at her bcus she is literally my bestfreind but sometime she just.. i dont know make me insecuree without her knowing(?) My other bestfriend is not like that and actually agree with me like sometime she press someone insecurities without knowing
Everyone has insecurities so you don't need to worry about that. You shouldn't stress over it just because people around you are dating. Besides I am sure you are beautiful just the way you are, and ain't it great that you haven't felt the need to settle for anything less so far. I have been single all my life and i don't regret it cause it was worth the wait and I finally got to meet the most important person of my life. So cheer up. When the tine is right you will definitely find the right person for you ♡´･ᴗ･`♡
No honeyy its ok your english is perfect and u know what, english is not my first language too, if i may ask, where ar u from?
Do they act that way towards your other friends too or just you?
She acts like that to my other bestfriends too, like we are group of 5 and been bestie since middle school. I know she doesn't mean harm but sometimes she just say without realizing that will harm mentally to the person she talks to, and u know i already told her this but she still doesn't know her fault and i just thinking, maybe by try accepting them just the way they are, like I have flaws too, then i be okay.
But in reality, I'm no saint, im still often get pissed of by her
It happens.... I have some frndz who do these but the scenarios r different...they like to brag like how much more they get attention than u...just say whatever u want cuz with best frndz we can be ourselves...no need to hide your thoughts .... And iff she again says "aww look they dm me" Then simply reply "girl, u sure have a lot of time in your hands"...
And just be confident.... And if u r making them laugh then it means u want to make your precious ones' smile...
Don't think 2 much... And one of my frnd told me that , when we were talking abt the bragging one, sometimes we do stuffs which we don't like cuz only then we maintain to be together... Like no gossips behind their back cuz they leave a sour taste in our mouths.... Just tell them when u don't like things cuz u guys r frndz so no need to hide your thoughts maybe u can sugarcoat your words but don't hide them...
Just speak your mind out....
I’m from USA. I am deaf and my first language is America Sign Language. I’m still struggling with English. Sorry if you thought that I’m from somewhere out of country though that’d be cool haha. What’s your first language? :0
It's ok to get upset with her, just because she is your best friend it doesn't mean you can't get mad at her. You don't have to accept everything she does. It seems you've already talked to her about it and you said she does it unconsciously without malicious intent....so idk I guess at this point it seems like this is a personality flaw that she's not willing to work on. Just be direct and honest when she does something that hurts you.
Girl I'm actually single all my life to, and thankyouu for the encouragement. But uknow I choose to be single cus I haven't met the guy that makes me feel comfy even im already 20 years old. And she makes my resolve crumbles , with she telling me how sweet and happy her relationship are. But u know her last relationship her bf lied to her and they broke up and who is the one she come crying her eyes out in the middle of the night. Yeah u figured
But then after 5 hours of crying and confide, the next day she get back together . Even when i told her that he is red light and never get back with him. And one month later.. he cheated on her and they broke up again
Girl its ok, actually its nice USA is also a great country, and my first language is indonesian and my second is chinese, english is my third
Actually , i already told her about this is, and she actually shocked about it but she still stay the same. As i already said, she is my bestie and i want no drama in our friendship, i just wanna try accepting her flaws like I also have a lot of flaws, but sometimes im no saint..
just sometimes i get pissed at her but to confront her just seem to much making this a drama for me. So i just hide my feelings until they go away. But today just i couldn't take it anymore, i need a place to vent.
Ig USA is not bad country tho.
Whoa three languages? That’s so cool!
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Thankyou honeyy, but u know in my country, its mandatory to learn minimum 2 languages, everyone i know can speak english so im not that cool .
You said she switchs bf often right ?
then her relationship are most probably supercifial... Its easy to be liked when you show your superficial side.
Im really not saying that popular people are superficial, but that the connections they have with the others is.
I guess it's just like the differences between introverts and extroverts.. Its not just a personality traits, it goes deeper.. It's influenced by the way you perceive the world, and both have good and bad sides. The cost of getting along with a lot of people is that you never truly understand them.
And the cost of truly seeing the person in front of you.. is that you don't get a lot of people by your side.
The more honest you are, the harder it gets to establish a "connection". If you feel like your friend easily connects with other people, then try to see how easily she "disconnects"... If people leave as fast as they come, then maybe you will be a little more at ease with yourself. I don't think that you should feel insecure about yourself because you don't have superficials relationships like that in your life. Everyone have their own strenghs, in the end the only thing that should count is how you want to live your life.
And yes, it happened to me.. actually it may have been worst. I got along with people but was never able to make "friends", I always got stuck at the "classmate" rank. When I complained about it people always used to tell me I put a barrier between them and me and I went crazy with that for years. I tried everything to change that... I would talk about myself to everyone, my childhood, my scars... I wore them high so that everyone could see but it didn't change anything. Once I joined a band of friends, with only two girls (me and another one). Half the guys fell in love with the other girl and started following her like crazy, totally forgiving me. I felt so bad, to be once again that girl no one wants, I started isolating myself. Then I gathered some courage and I went to see her, I told her how lonely I felt.... And then she completly avoided me, saying I had pushed her away. LOL
As for boys, I easily get along with them.. Boys like me because I am "different" from other girls. I don't care about make up, listened to metal, speak like a truck driver... Some became infatuated, told me they loved me... Like an idiot I always got my hopes up only to have them turn their back to me once they realized I was just only a girl, my appareance often being the deciding factor... Guess once their curiosity was satisfied they didn't need me anymore, or they just idealize me on their own and throw me away once they wake up. It made me sad... But I knew they were the one at fault for rushing in without thinking things through. I thought I was better off without those guys around....
The only explanation I got for all of that.. Might be because I have a slightly higher IQ than most.. IQ is not just "intelligence" but the way your brain works. Socially I might even have some similarities with autistic people.. Well anyway, people always blamed me for not having friends when in fact they pushed me away because they felt I was different and probably didn't even understand it themselves. I did feel a lot of anger and sadness before knowing that
Thankyou girll, Oh my yes i understand what u're saying, but actually she the type that get along with people fine and so am I, to put in simply, im not the type that have a lot of hai bye friend like her, but i have more close friend than her so u actually right at some point, but i think the case is not cus she have superficial relationships but more like she get attached pretty quick to guys, she is the kind of girl that put her happiness to relationship. Meanwhile Im the one who put happiness in partying , drink and being single.
I think my advice for u is, never try to hard at making them ur friends. Cus friend will come when u enjoy being ur self. Try to deepening ur bond like ask how is it going or be there when they been through something. Like that little by little they will see u as their closefriends
Thankyou girll, Oh my yes i understand what u're saying, but actually she the type that get along with people fine and so am I, to put in simply, im not the type that have a lot of hai bye friend like her, but i have more close friend than her so u actually right at some point, but i think the case is not cus she have superficial relationships but more like she get attached pretty quick to guys, she is the kind of girl that put her happiness to relationship. Meanwhile Im the one who put happiness in partying , drink and being single.
I think my advice for u is, never try to hard at making them ur friends. Cus friend will come when u enjoy being ur self. Try to deepening ur bond like ask how is it going or be there when they been through something. Like that little by little they will see u as their closefriends
Soooo I'm a woman and I life in a country that sex is taboo etc. I always like reading BL things (hardcore(?) ), so anyways I become interested in how they doing it in real life.
Well i have some gay friends cus Im really open-minded for people in my country, but i never see they actually get together with their bf.
Yesterday I actually got curious so my gay friends told me that he can show it to me how its done. My curiosity get better at me so yeah I agree. In my life, i never see a man's dick u know. Well u can say I'm already above 18 but not that I'm a good girl etc , i like partying and smoke ,but in my country, takes sex to seriously so I never do it bcus I scared by society stigma.
So anyways ,My gay friends doing the dirty in front of me, GIRL U KNOW HOW SHOCK I WAS WHEN I SEE THAT SHIT NOT GLOWING .
Nah im kidding ,i know sausage dont glow, but I'm not lying when i told u I'm shocked ,this is not what i expected. I expected... More like , shit i know manhwa etc tends to beautify dicks but shit its like having facetune on ur dick in those manhwa.
Soo anybody have the same experience?
rip if you went to those taboo websites you probably would've realized much earlier XD
IN FRONT OF YOU?? OMG
Hahaha actually i look at pornhub etc but, i just can't get the courage to watch it, dunno why
Yeah girl in front of me, that shit suprised me cus im not mentally ready
I'm 100% no one been thru thatTHAT WAS VERY FUNT O READ THO
You have very interesting friends..
Yeah ,I think they enjoy my shocked to death face, like 1/2 of the time i close my eyes cus its too much to handle