Amimori

Honestly, I completely understand ML’s frustrations and feelings about MC distrusting him. I do feel some sort of pity for him because the argument and conversations mirror many from his past.

Though, I’d like to stay neutral because I do sincerely feel for both. MC went into the relationship knowing that ML slept with clients and it seems backhanded to ML that MC suddenly isn’t comfortable with it anymore.

Now here comes the kicker! It’s more than okay, perfectly and so basically understandable as to why MC’s views changed. When a relationship is just starting, especially in a situation like this, sometimes you’ll get confident that you’re able to handle it. When you analyze the MC’s personality he seems like a genuinely understanding person. I don’t think he’s asking for a detailed breakdown about why ML wants to continue sleeping with his clients rather than just focusing on the stripping part. It seems that they both have genuine feelings and care for each other, but when you factor in the multiple times that ML says he doesn’t sleep with clients for money, but because he wants to. Dare I say, chooses to out of his own volition and free will it feels a bit… icky?

Now, MC didn’t use any commanding words when addressing his concerns. He asked, in contrast to demanding, if ML could possibly not do the second part and just do stripping. He didn’t ask him to quit his job entirely, but if he could stop sleeping with his clients. If you take their specific situation it seems like a simple ask yes? You ask your partner whom you’re sexually and emotionally committed to (on both ends) to stop sleeping with other people. Now bring in their situation. Sex workers, a majority at least because I wouldn’t want to assume, do it for money, for transactional reasons. ML has stated that he will not, for any reason, sleep with people he doesn’t want to sleep with. He’s also stated that he does not do it for money as well. The natural progression of a conversation like this is of course, to ask. Why?

Which is what MC did. He asked for at least a reason. If ML isn’t quite comfortable yet, perhaps doesn’t trust MC enough to fully have him be privy to his reasons he can simply communicate “I’m not quite comfortable saying my reason yet.” In a situation like this, acting out defensively, shutting out your partner, and becoming somewhat aggressive will escalate the situation horribly. Which is, what he did unfortunately.

Now, let’s move on to MC’s errors. Of course, yes, he knew what he was getting into. He’s dating a sex worker. The connotations that come with those who do sex work is that it is because of income. This is work, like any other job, you do what your job entails to earn money. You do not have the authority to demand your partner to quit when you told them you’re okay with that when you guys start dating. Of course, it’s not criminal to have a change of heart. Your partner tells you that they’re not doing it for money so again the same question comes up. So why? Insecurity arises. If MC is unable to continue with the predetermined agreements and his previous acceptance of ML’s job then he should, in my opinion, in order to stop both parties from being hurt recognize that it might not work out.

It’s not quite a drastic jump to break up. Of course, working it out is always a great and wonderful option. It’s when one party isn’t able to open up and the other party is insecure that working it out just doesn’t seem possible. To minimize the heartache and stress for both of them they should break up… or at least take a break.

Now that’s the logic in me. Emotionally, if my partner is a sex worker and I start to go back on my promises of being understanding. I would take a step back, seek reassurance from them and ask what their reason is to continue sleeping with clients if it’s not for money. If I am asking them calmly, without any accusatory tones, but rather in a “I’m just a bit lost and seeking some reassurance. I trust you, but I’m a bit in my own head.” If instead of letting me know that they’re not quite comfortable sharing yet, they lash out, violently punch a piece of furniture, scream that it’s none of my business (though we are emotionally invested in each other) and tell me to leave? I would simply have to leave and not in a, leave the house way, but leave the relationship way. Staying together would prolongate both our stress, cause more confusion and heartache. I recognize that I’m in the wrong because I betrayed my promise to them and questioned their motives although I said I was accepting. At the same time, I also recognize now that my feelings and boundaries have changed and it isn’t right to him or I to keep this relationship going.

At the end of the day, that’s just me though, another random person on the internet writing a damn essay LMAOOO

i literally dropped this, came back to see if the latest chapter showed improvement, ran straight to the comments to rant about how this chapter made me start to dislike the MC although i supported him at first. went through the comments for a laugh because i was hoping we were all on the same page for the ex offering MC a harsh, but needed reality check, but instead genuinely became more aggravated at a commenter/troll than i am at the ML. LMAO?