Hisano Chaelin's Topics (44)

I think because he remembers a little kid much younger than him. And he was super small. Since Chaejun is super big now and they’re only a year apart he doesn’t correlate that they’re the same person

They were children… do you think you could recognize your elementary classmates now?

Not only that, but shortly after this one of them had a traumatic event happen, like….

It's my point
Friends, yes. Someone i'Ve interacted so much with, i'd recognize name and face of course! But not people i've barely spoken to ! I mean, it happens to me all the time and Im almost 40! so funny meeting people I knew in the first grades of school!

i think we're forgetting here that chaejun had a traumatic head injury and i wouldnt be surpised if seunghyeon did as well (along the lines of concussion) or what he went through was traumatic enough that his memories are blurry/buried

Its a trauma response.. . The human brain blocks out or fails to process memories to protect against stress, no matter how important they are

Trauma is not necessarly the cause. It's not like they spent a year together, we are here talking about weeks, more probably days. It's normal that they forgot, time does It's thing and besides people change as they grow up. Even I have trouble recognising people I used to hang out with for years, some of them I only know because of pictures that we took otherwise I have no recollection of them. And for them adding the trauma to that did not help.

..... I dont remember the faces of kids I saw everyday in my classroom soooooo

Omg? Mind you i dont remember most of my childhood and the person in it.... and i also so forgetfull about name and face of People im interact, even if i meet them daily, after 2 year my memories Will already fuzzy... so not everyone is the same!

Stupid people likes stupid things

Rightt, I thought heat was like equivalent to period.

Thank god I'm not the only one! Most of these omega verse ones irk much on this point alone. I'm like, thats literally what the heat is for...why the fuck would it continue?!

If you're not used to using big boy words maybe look up how they're spelled first. Only if you're trying to sound intellectual though

I’m pretty sure they’re not being serious

Does thinking that make you feel better? There's not really any indication that they're joking. They also didn't say something completely outlandish and absurd, is the misspelling the thing that makes it a joke?

Why would it make me feel any better when i’m not feeling particularly bad or good in the first place nor are there any indications that i’m feeling a certain way? lol well anyway the indicator was that it’s not an uncommon thing to use an unreasonably amount of big words to the point where it comes across as obviously ridiculous,, hence why it can be a joke. and them speaking “normally” at every other instance (seemingly at least) but yeah after rereading it properly you’re probably right because it’s really just the first line that’s kinda ehhh but I still do not see the issue then as it’s only that..

Okay, I kinda get your reasoning, if I had only read the first line I probably also just would've dismissed it as a joke

happy new years

I am sorry for the mispelling. It's not my first language and I was feeling the chapter. My comment was actually meant to be serious. Please let me know the right wording you would have chosen to get the good idea across.

not everyone can afford medicine and therapy but I do agree that you should fix your own issues before entering a relationship.

but he has a supportive boyfriend who is willing to help him financially and every way so he can afford medicine and therapy, although maybe it’s unhealthy to rely on your partner like that sometimes it’s alright to accept help like that

true although i thinks it’s because dan doesn’t really see jaekyung as a supportive boyfriend right now but someone who he has a debt to

When you've grown fully accustomed to resolve everything, every single and little thing, on your own since you were little with no help whatsoever it's difficult asking for help. It takes a strong will and a fierce battle against your instincts and anxiety to say "I need help, I'm not okay, I cannot manage this on my own" because it makes you feel vulnerable. Furthermore, I think that Woo-won has been suppressing his feelings and self for a long time in order to be liked, to not be a bother, to feel useful. It's worse when it's the person you really love because you want them to see your best but you're afraid they'll leave at your worst even if they tell you and show you that they'll be still there. You cannot believe that because no one was there before, they always left. Add some abandonment issues (the father left, the mother left for a few days, his girlfriends left, the one thing he loved had to be given up), add physical and emotional abuse for we don't know how long... I'm pretty sure he has disorganised attachment and now that he's not in a pretty place it's biting his ass and messing with their relationship.
Having a rich boyfriend willing to help you does nothing when you battle against yourself and your demons and your inner voices... What he needs is realising that he needs help, professional help, and solving all his traumas with therapy.
You cannot blame him for his actions, you cannot say he's wasting time and being a burden because that's precisely what gives more trauma to the person.
He does have a rich boyfriend willing to help but who is toxic AF too and also needs therapy. Instead of trying to understand and empathise with Woo-woon he blames him and then showers him with love and care and "I'm so sorry" and then when Woo-woon does something he doesn't like again we repeat the pattern.

Someone who practically had to raise themselves with no help doesn’t know what unconditional love is they have trouble asking for help or admitting they need it and having it done can make them uncomfortable or feel the need to run

Then Seo an would have, has he?