That need for excited misery and how obsession escalates--I can identify. Not sure how the characters will heal from this... Looking forward to where the story goes from here.
That is a great way to legitimize the athleticism it takes to work a pole without it being seen as merely sexual. Super excited to see this facet of the story develop!
Everyone in this mess needs a time out. No contact between them for a month (at least) to sort out what they feel. Let the dust settle...