so i have never been in a relationship before and there's a guy who liked me for 4 years and still he does , for the past few days i was in dilemma whether i like him or not and i even talked to him abt it and he said i could take time and after few days i gained my clarity that i don't want to be in a relationship . my whole time thing was to be single and love the manhwa guys , and i said to him that i don't want to be in a relationship and he said ok and that we can be friends and now we are talking as friends as i can't reject . now i don't know what am i even doing , well my feeling started to shake in the beginning because my friend was saying he is a nice guy blah blah . now they tease me that i like him i just laugh because they look at me funnily but they are saying i am blushing and now acting like i got a boyfriend . but i am clear abt my feelings . pls someone tell me what is right and what is wrong here pls pls
As you stated, you're clear about what you want, there is no right or wrong about what you and I repeat cleary want. Maybe you have to be more stern with your friends about what you want. Don't be pressured by those surrounding you and be confident with your facts since this is simply you being yourself.
I know you got this, I believe in you.
Being swayed might just lead to more uncomfortable things and being put in situations you do not want to be in.
I’m a true believer of what is “right”, is what YOU want and feel comfortable with. In other words, putting yourself first! If you see yourself regretting it in the future then don’t stay on it. I don’t really think there’s a strong “wrong” here, maybe your friends teasing if you’re uncomfortable with it? As long as you have clarity with your feelings, thats the most important thing.
I've been somewhat in this same situation before and it can be frustrating and you're completely in the right, because your feelings are valid. I think your friends are in the wrong because they should respect your feelings about this. The best thing to do is have a sit down and talk with your friends about how you feeling about the teasing and stuff and if they don't respect it you need some new friends. But yeah this is my advice to you hope it goes well.
As you stated, you're clear about what you want, there is no right or wrong about what you and I repeat cleary want. Maybe you have to be more stern with your friends about what you want. Don't be pressured by ... Weebyzeeby
thank u so much for clearing my mind and supporting like actually this is my first time posting a question and you are so kind
I’m a true believer of what is “right”, is what YOU want and feel comfortable with. In other words, putting yourself first! If you see yourself regretting it in the future then don’t stay on it. I don�... William Shakespeare
I've been somewhat in this same situation before and it can be frustrating and you're completely in the right, because your feelings are valid. I think your friends are in the wrong because they should respect ... Frog
i don't think i can get new friends and i tried reasoning with them but still they think it is unusual since it is my first time talking to boys
As the other commenter said, you're clear about what you want and have been direct until now in saying to him and your friends that you DON'T want to be in a relationship, at least for now (and with him). It sounds to me like your friends are pushing the idea of getting into a relationship on you (I'm sure they mean well, I'm assuming they're quite young afterall, but to you it must be very uncomfortable) and you're doubting your own feelings because of it, thinking that 'he's such a nice guy and has liked me for a long time so it doesn't make sense for me NOT to like him'. Remember, you can like a person platonically as a friend without necessarily wanting a relationship with them. AND even if you're indeed blushing, that doesn't mean anything (I myself get embarassed very easily when a guy suggests they like me, and blush terribly even though I'm freaking AROACE and don't even like men). To get with him just because he likes you without reciprocating wouldn't be fair to him AND to himself. So imo, just let things be, he sounds like a nice guy who can accept a rejection and still stay as your friend and treat you kindly (if on the contrary he starts feeling resentful and acting bitchy then you'll know that you dodged a bullet). Maybe have a conversation with your friends and tell them clearly that their teasing makes you uncomfortable, they most likely don't even realize that you don't find the jokes funny. Good luck :)
i don't think i can get new friends and i tried reasoning with them but still they think it is unusual since it is my first time talking to boys Oh_Hyendo
Mmmm I understand, I hope they understand your viewpoint eventually
As the other commenter said, you're clear about what you want and have been direct until now in saying to him and your friends that you DON'T want to be in a relationship, at least for now (and with him). It so... Eva
so i have never been in a relationship before and there's a guy who liked me for 4 years and still he does , for the past few days i was in dilemma whether i like him or not and i even talked to him abt it and he said i could take time and after few days i gained my clarity that i don't want to be in a relationship . my whole time thing was to be single and love the manhwa guys , and i said to him that i don't want to be in a relationship and he said ok and that we can be friends and now we are talking as friends as i can't reject . now i don't know what am i even doing , well my feeling started to shake in the beginning because my friend was saying he is a nice guy blah blah . now they tease me that i like him i just laugh because they look at me funnily but they are saying i am blushing and now acting like i got a boyfriend . but i am clear abt my feelings . pls someone tell me what is right and what is wrong here pls pls
As you stated, you're clear about what you want, there is no right or wrong about what you and I repeat cleary want. Maybe you have to be more stern with your friends about what you want. Don't be pressured by those surrounding you and be confident with your facts since this is simply you being yourself.
I know you got this, I believe in you.
Being swayed might just lead to more uncomfortable things and being put in situations you do not want to be in.
Sending hugs!
I’m a true believer of what is “right”, is what YOU want and feel comfortable with. In other words, putting yourself first! If you see yourself regretting it in the future then don’t stay on it. I don’t really think there’s a strong “wrong” here, maybe your friends teasing if you’re uncomfortable with it? As long as you have clarity with your feelings, thats the most important thing.
I've been somewhat in this same situation before and it can be frustrating and you're completely in the right, because your feelings are valid. I think your friends are in the wrong because they should respect your feelings about this. The best thing to do is have a sit down and talk with your friends about how you feeling about the teasing and stuff and if they don't respect it you need some new friends. But yeah this is my advice to you hope it goes well.
thank u so much for clearing my mind and supporting like actually this is my first time posting a question and you are so kind
thank u i will try my best
i don't think i can get new friends and i tried reasoning with them but still they think it is unusual since it is my first time talking to boys
Of course! Wishing you best!
As the other commenter said, you're clear about what you want and have been direct until now in saying to him and your friends that you DON'T want to be in a relationship, at least for now (and with him). It sounds to me like your friends are pushing the idea of getting into a relationship on you (I'm sure they mean well, I'm assuming they're quite young afterall, but to you it must be very uncomfortable) and you're doubting your own feelings because of it, thinking that 'he's such a nice guy and has liked me for a long time so it doesn't make sense for me NOT to like him'. Remember, you can like a person platonically as a friend without necessarily wanting a relationship with them. AND even if you're indeed blushing, that doesn't mean anything (I myself get embarassed very easily when a guy suggests they like me, and blush terribly even though I'm freaking AROACE and don't even like men). To get with him just because he likes you without reciprocating wouldn't be fair to him AND to himself. So imo, just let things be, he sounds like a nice guy who can accept a rejection and still stay as your friend and treat you kindly (if on the contrary he starts feeling resentful and acting bitchy then you'll know that you dodged a bullet). Maybe have a conversation with your friends and tell them clearly that their teasing makes you uncomfortable, they most likely don't even realize that you don't find the jokes funny. Good luck :)
Mmmm I understand, I hope they understand your viewpoint eventually
*and to YOURself