ItzTinSeL's Topics (707)

You're literally so real for this, I like seeing people I can relate to in random comment sections

Oh would I hate to be ur friend, as a person with a disability we still can like people. And people who have no confidence?? Thats literally so weird, And even if ur super close to someone that it feels like family, they can still like u literally anyone can like u. Youre doing all these hand picking bc you dont want someone to like u, but U can just be friends with other aro-ace people?? or did u ever think to just turn someone down if they like u? Its not gonna kill them, and what disability?? Ur aro ace realistically what the MC is doing is NOT okay, and he should turn down the other guy. But at the same time he pushed himself into the other guys life so what did he expect really?

.......ROMTANTIC FEELINGS ARE WHAT I'M AVOIDING. NOT PLATONIC ONES. Hello? Or do you not know what 'aromantic ace' means? IT MEANS NEITHER ROMANTIC OR SEXUAL FEELINGS. All the examples I listed were safe choices for me so others neither experience romantic or sexual feelings towards me FOR PROTECTION. Which means I'm not at risk of getting hurt nor are they. I understand you have a disability but there are certain disabilities that prevent others from experiencing certain relations, I wont speak for them because I also have my own disabilities that others shouldn't speak on lightly however BASED ON THE DISABILITIES THAT I MYSELF AM ALREADY FAMILIAR AND EXPERIENCED WITH- is what I like to keep around me. If you don't understand some else's perspective remain silent because projecting your own standards on someone else's experience, which is also weird af ( ⩌⤚⩌)

Also what determines what he's doing is not okay? As of right now from an outside perspective he hasn't hurt his partner yet. The only reason you think he wrong is because you get the privilege of taking a look into his thoughts and judging that HIS THOUGHTS ARE WRONG, however his actions right now are still very much non-hostile and non-problematic. He is on a nice date and being considerate and accommodating he hasn't yet acted on his thoughts so on a technical level HE ISN'T EVEN BEING AN ASSWHOLE UNLESS HE MAKES IS DECISIONS A REALITY. Don't think you've realized yet but people change their minds faster than a blink and can only be judged BASED ON THEIR ACTIONS. He isn't guilty of anything yet, so he's not at doing anything wrong, no?

Same it honestly feels like medicine for the soul~~ ꒰ঌ(๑≧ᗜ≦)໒꒱⋆⸜♡⸝⋆

Im literally not reading all this, JUST TALK TO PEOPLE WHO R ALSO ARO ACE.

Then why did you respond loser?

Coz its a public comment section? Nice one blocking me so I couldnt reply cvnt

@혜니꿀 Pffftahahaha!!! It's reactions like yours that are the most entertaining ~~~ ∠( ᐛ 」∠)＿

It's honestly sad to see how many people dislike or hate Dohu, calling him "annoying" or manipulative etc. Like okay, I can't say your feelings aren't valid, but considering how many autistic people relate to him to the point that it's less believable to say he isn't autistic...it just makes me sad. These feel like the type of people who get mad at autistic folks for lacking empathy/not showing it correctly, yet here they are, unable to empathise/sympathise with him despite us seeing clearly his thoughts and way of thinking.

As another note, as I read the other replies, I assume it was honestly just a misundestanding of words and context. Most people tend to associate the word "disability" with visible and/or physical disabilities, so in that sense, I can see why your first use of it was misunderstood. Because I saw you refer to Dohu having a disability, I assumed it was about him being autistic, so I assumed you meant some other specific disabilities. Feel free to correct me if I'm wrong!

As yet another note, man do I relate to your comment as well. I identify being somewhere on the aro/ace spectrums, as I know for a fact I've had romantic crushes before, even if only two. Afterwards I had incidents where people were flirting with me and I didn't realise it until they were dancing against me on the dance floor, and someone between an acquaintance and a friend asked me if I had a crush on her when we were hanging out despite me only ever being/feeling platonic with me. I feel so bad for these incidents and blame myself for not picking up their hints/making them misunderstand my actions. It sucks. It's why I'm overly anxious about new friendships or new people I meet, because I don't know what they want/can't read them like allistic people can, and if they want something more than a chat or a friendship, I know I can't give them what they want. I also hate how one can't talk/ask about this directly, despite me living in a more direct culture than your typical western culture

You can't control other people's feelings and how they interpret your actions, and that sucks. I totally understand protecting yourself by being selective of who you accept as friends.

THANK YOU!! Thank you for understanding on a higher level and not onna surface level.

[ And yes although I did say he has a disability what I meant was that he had an "inability" that he himself knows of but hasn't full addressed yet internally, and by no means did I mean he was autistic but his symptoms could come off as such sometimes. Aro/ace's have similar qualities so whether he is an aro/ace or autistic, inna very technical sense depending on who's on the receiving end of our behavior it could been seen as a disability in a varying level of course. Simply wearing glasses can mean having a disability and I was definitely misunderstood because of my lacking in context of the very broad term of "disability" which I'll personally work on next time]

AND SWEAR!! I'm not only just trying to protect myself but also trying to protect THEM (the opposite party) AS WELL! I am fully aware that I can be source of trauma for people if I'm not careful with how I interact with others. I have core memories that I wish I didn't have because of people who were simple too immature to realize that they were being toxic and I never want to end up being someone's negative core memory EVER so I have to walk through life doing the hard work that others are too immature to do themselves....AND ITS EFFING TIRING!! ITS LIKE LOOKING AFTER TO KIDS 24/7!!

What really pisses me off about being misunderstood is that KNOW ONE would ever know of what I'm doing behind the scenes unless I verbally tell them so being that-that dumb ass said "I would hate to be ur friend" really got me boiling because that ass-hat got the privilege to understand my inner struggles that not even my bestfriends know about and I'VE NEVER HURT NONE OF MY FRIENDS OR DISRESPECTED THEM OR EVER MADE THEM FEEL LESS THAN WHAT I VALUE THEM AS. [I'm like their obsessive fan really] And yet I'm twisted into a villain because they couldn't think like you Cory. So frigging annoying I swear. But anyway it's prolly worst for you because as you said your culture is more direct but their are probably subtle things that aren't as direct in your culture that you can openly discuss freely so you are probably going through the strongest of mental tortures being surrounded by no one to relate to ya?

yeah, and even if our mc stays still and do nothing that annoying girl will fuck up on her own