I think I would like this even more if they went over limits and aftercare. I know this is fiction and not a guide to healthy BDSM but if you are going to address the importance of safe words I think you should also go over people's hard and soft limits and that it needs to be done before any sort of play happens. You know like saying you are OK with enema play or having your genitals tied up.
He kinda did tell "sir" he's okay with anything CandyApple
Saying they don't need a safe word and they are OK with anything is a huge red flag that the person knows next to nothing about BDSM or that they havent had safe interactions so going over what they do and don't want is definitely needed. There is a lot in BDSM just some examples are being denied an orgasam, the way you are degraded, if you like getting hit in what way, getting pissed on, blood play, branding, scarification. You might like getting slapped but not in the face, getting stepped on but without shoes. There is just a lot and saying you are OK with anything is really not safe and someone experienced should be responsible and explain why you need to voice your likes and dislikes.
He kinda did tell "sir" he's okay with anything CandyApple
Yeah no that’s not how it works. When they say they’re okay with anything, esp if they’re clearly inexperienced, you 1. Make them choose safe words or establish the lights system 2. List out anything a newbie might be unfamiliar/ the basic with and check if they think they’d be okay. You also start easy the first sesh then take it up as u go. So I personally would def ask if they’re okay with enemas, impact play, being slapped/hitting the face, bondage, toys, degradation, sissification, breath play (wouldn’t try it too soon), waterboarding (def not for first sesh with a newbie) etc... I ptalso intentionally bring up stuff that are typically a “no” for an average person even if I’d never do it/ it’s my hard limit, just to make sure they *can* say no, like fisting, watersports, and scat.
But alas, this is a fictional manga for fun and not a guide so… they never follow bdsm etiquette
Yesssss... this! Very important. It is better than most bdsm bl but to say it's healthy, I'm not sure lol. Good enough for fiction for sure. Especially the part where Sir sqt on the chair with drinks lol I can see this scene irl with my Sir
I think I would like this even more if they went over limits and aftercare.
I know this is fiction and not a guide to healthy BDSM but if you are going to address the importance of safe words I think you should also go over people's hard and soft limits and that it needs to be done before any sort of play happens.
You know like saying you are OK with enema play or having your genitals tied up.
He kinda did tell "sir" he's okay with anything
Saying they don't need a safe word and they are OK with anything is a huge red flag that the person knows next to nothing about BDSM or that they havent had safe interactions so going over what they do and don't want is definitely needed.
There is a lot in BDSM just some examples are being denied an orgasam, the way you are degraded, if you like getting hit in what way, getting pissed on, blood play, branding, scarification. You might like getting slapped but not in the face, getting stepped on but without shoes.
There is just a lot and saying you are OK with anything is really not safe and someone experienced should be responsible and explain why you need to voice your likes and dislikes.
Yeah no that’s not how it works. When they say they’re okay with anything, esp if they’re clearly inexperienced, you 1. Make them choose safe words or establish the lights system 2. List out anything a newbie might be unfamiliar/ the basic with and check if they think they’d be okay. You also start easy the first sesh then take it up as u go.
So I personally would def ask if they’re okay with enemas, impact play, being slapped/hitting the face, bondage, toys, degradation, sissification, breath play (wouldn’t try it too soon), waterboarding (def not for first sesh with a newbie) etc...
I ptalso intentionally bring up stuff that are typically a “no” for an average person even if I’d never do it/ it’s my hard limit, just to make sure they *can* say no, like fisting, watersports, and scat.
But alas, this is a fictional manga for fun and not a guide so… they never follow bdsm etiquette
Yesssss... this! Very important. It is better than most bdsm bl but to say it's healthy, I'm not sure lol. Good enough for fiction for sure. Especially the part where Sir sqt on the chair with drinks lol I can see this scene irl with my Sir