Manga's purpose is entertainment, it doesn't have to be realistic, so of course it's different from real life and how gay relationships actually develop but that's what's fun about it, the unusual events and the drama that normally doesn't happen in real life is what attracts the reader to the plot. If you personally hate those kind of things then ......
For me it is definitly Ao from Yume Musubi, Koi Musubi, he is really cute, but not helpless(black belt in karate and starting judo) plus HE trys to seduce the seme and he is not the typical shy little boy
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