aDDictedToYaoi

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and the bills.. ryt?

Yes, students and workers have different maturity. But given that the working one is (supposedly) more mature than the other, he/she is supposed to at least do one part of his/her job of being a lover: reassure his/her lover. Even just a text.

If he/she really finds that he/she can't make time for it, they should just break up. It will hurt more the longer they try to salvage the relationship to no avail.

Being the mature one, he/she should be the one to cut it off if it's already strangling him/her (or rather, both parties).

I think you hit the nail on the head with, "And everyone's got their priorities". Because that's the problem we have with it. The relationship, and the boyfriend himself, are *not* the older one's priorities. If he had time to brood, he had time to shoot a quick text.

If it was just that specific job that was the problem, though, I think we wouldn't think so badly of the office worker. However, the fact that he refers to his boyfriend as, "problematic", "stupid", "tiring", "annoying", and then again "stupid", means that there is *far* more wrong in this relationship than just being busy with work. If being with your significant other is a prospect that exhausts you just thinking about it, then that is a *problem*. If your significant other pushes all blame onto you, even when you have a legitimate beef, that is a *problem*. If one person, without explanation, just starts skipping out on a scheduled, routine date and refuses to return attempts at contact, that is a *problem*.

Plus he shows up late for meet-ups without any warning, indication if he's still coming, or (when he does finally arrive) apology. That's just *rude*, nevermind the relationship! I get pissed off when people do it to me. I'm certainly no paragon of punctuality, but I'll send them a text or something to let them know that I'm running late. And I don't expect them to just still be there if I *can't* get a message out to them.

I do agree with you, though. Being in a relationship can be a *huge* pain. It requires a tremendous investment in effort and time, or at least it should. That's one of the main reasons I got *out* of my last relationship, and why I haven't been in one for over three years. I haven't met anyone that makes me want to make them a priority. The reverse is true as well, though. Take my parents: My Dad and some friends owned their own company before they were married. The company was in high demand, such that he usually worked 14-16 hours a day, 6 days a week. But once a month he would take a Friday off, drive all night after he left work Thursday, Mom would skip her uni classes on Friday, and they'd spend three days together before he'd drive back Sunday night so he could work on Monday. Because they were a priority to each other. And some months one or the other couldn't make it, but you can *DAMN* bet they'd *call* each other and properly cancel first!

Good luck with the siblings! You're doing a great thing, making them your priorities. People like you are heroes, even if you're probably never going to get a statue made. You're giving them something priceless and precious. Even if they don't fully understand it now, I'm sure they'll treasure it the rest of their lives!