He's more patient and forgiving than me
He’s not raising 2 kids. He’s raising a baby and he’s helping his husband through trauma. “In sickness and in health” or did you forget that those were the vows you swear to uphold for forever when you get married? His husband is a good partner and a good father. He’s just traumatised and sometimes needs support. Just like how ML supports MC and becomes a safe space where he can even cry after not being able to cry safely for 30 years. It’s a partnership where both people support the other. You’re being as bad as the hate comments ML got saying they should separate. Do you not see the irony?
You realise he was living just fine up until the pregnancy was well underway right? His trauma was something that wasn’t affecting his day to day life and he even said “I’m scared but I’m really excited!” He did all he could to prepare for the child and was doing great! All up until he got hate comments and people saying they found his dad and stuff. His trauma was induced by horrible people on the internet NOT the baby. He was anxious but ALL new parents are anxious. Also, that’s not how trauma works. You don’t go to therapy and suddenly it’s gone. You go to therapy so you can better avoid your triggers and try to move on with your life but you will FOREVER hold that trauma within you. I would know. I have ptsd for 2 different things and grew up abused just like he was. Only difference is that I never got out and cps never helped me out either. I’m fine in my day to day and I don’t really flinch around people anymore either. I’m still super anxious but therapy isn’t a miracle cure so it won’t fix what causes the anxiety. When you get scared, the body remembers that fear even if the brain doesn’t and it will activate that fear to the same degree that it happened the first time and it will not let go of that fear until you die. That’s because if it DOES let go of the fear, it would be like turning your back on a raging fire. That’s why therapy doesn’t always help. My therapist told me that to overcome my ptsd, I need to turn my back on the dangers that I experienced and pretend they don’t exist. That’s not something I can do as someone who experienced those dangers multiple times in multiple ways. Faking it until you make it doesn’t work with trauma. It only makes the outside less frantic looking. He’s doing fine now that the haters are no longer affecting him and dragging up trauma. As long as he can avoid triggers (any mention of his dad or the abuse he faced) he will be okay. Most people with trauma survive by just avoiding it. That’s not something that’s wrong. That’s what we are taught in therapy to do. Reconditioning a human brain is not easy or simple and you can really really damage someone that way. That’s why it’s not allowed anymore. We can’t perform lobotomies on people. Also it wouldn’t work anyway since like I said, trauma is stored in the body not the brain.









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