Have An Unpopular Opinion

Let's talk about the gender roles in the LGBT community and how they're harmful. Today I'll only be discussing the Lesbians, Gays, and Transgenders. First, with the lesbians and how the stereotypes of a lesbian hurts other lesbians.

Lesbians are supposed to be "masculine" and "tough" or whatnot, and if you do not fit the stereotype of a lesbian, you are shunned or you don't feel like an actual "lesbian" because you need to fit the norm. This is especially bad with femmes because they are the least likely to be capable of dating because everyone automatically assumes they are "straight" especially with femme/femme couples where they are automatically assumed to be straight because the norm says so. They are automatically assumed to be weaker or a bottom because that is the role assigned to them. Firstly, your misogynistic ideals are showing, secondly, what someone wears and how someone acts is not what defines them. Which brings us to the gays.

I think we all know the stereotype of a gay man, the gay bestfriend, etc. Let me make this clear, not all gay men are flamboyant bottoms sucking off the masculine men in the closet. Gay men are normal people like you and I, is it really so hard to leave them alone? We don't need to think who's top and who's bottom, like, focus on yourself, that's really creepy. Gay men aren't your token best friend and not all feminine men are automatically gay, get it?

Then there's the trans people. If a trans man or woman does not fit the average gender roles, they are berated and called "transtrenders" even people in their own community do this, such as Blair White or Kalvin Garrah. Why the fuck do we need to appease cis people in the first place? We don't "owe" them passing, we don't "owe" them anything. I'm a feminine trans man. What are you gonna do? Cry? Piss your pants? Say I'm not a "real trans person?" like, okay bestie. Your internalized transphobia is showing, I'm sorry that something dysphoric to YOU is not something dysphoric to ME. Everyone experiences dysphoria and euphoria in different ways, are we really gonna stop people from being happy just because you don't like it? Gender is a societal thing, we really don't need it.
This is a good explanation of how trans people bully other trans people, check him out, he's amazing: https://youtu.be/rskxlwoE7mU

So what have we learned from this? You do not need to defy gender stereotypes to have a certain sexuality and you don't have to abide by gender norms to be trans. Thanks for listening to my ted talk.