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I'm disappointed that I think like this
When looking at two (real)men together I almost immediately think about which one will top or bottom. I know that it's not right and I think about other things like which food I'll eat to stop that thought immediately but I'm so disappointed at myself for even thinking that because I know that people are not things that I assign roles to. Any useful advice to stop these kinds of thoughts?
Just remind yourself that these are real people with real feelings and stop reducing them to their position in bed.
I don't think you'd like it if someone saw you with your friends and began fantasizing about who's fucking who. reply
I admit its nice that you actually know that what you're doing is wrong and you're trying to fix it yourself. But seriously, the only thing I can come up to get you outta that habit is just... don't think about it? I think I'm kinda useless at this cuz I've never had thoughts like that myself, good luck though reply
Hi! thank you for the answers. It made me realize that my mindset is really disgusting and I should stop it as soon as possible. I'll be taking a break from reading yaoi because constantly reading it throughout quarantine must have messed up my brain. Thank you for the answers. reply
Good on you for recognizing that these thoughts are wrong! Now, we can't always prevent thoughts (they tend to just happen), so what you do is basically... Internally call yourself out for them? Self-correct. If you start thinking "Oh, I bet that guy is this position in bed", cut yourself off and go "No, that's fetishizing people, and I need to not...... reply
