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How did you "find yourself"?
Asking cause I don't know anyone irl who can answer this, but if you can: how did you move on from feeling absolutely lost without dreams, purpose, and identity?
Inspiration by chance? An unforgettable encounter with another person?
I genuinely don't understand how people just 'somehow' find a way out and begin living a LIFE for real and I'd like to know if anyone has an experience to give some insight - or can at least relate to/understand what I'm talking about.
Sometimes you find none of those things and you just keep going.
I got really good at lying to fake congruence between my feelings and my "public" life.
"no way you're depressed, you're just ungrateful and unable to identify how bLeSseD your are" made devastating damage every single time so I just stopped. Most won't talk about how they found pu...... 1 reply
The only way I find myself was I stopped looking, I stopped trying to look in everything and just see the world as it is. The world isn't gonna stop turning when I die. reply
pretty sure I haven’t “found myself” yet but I’ve found a new hobby that’s keeping me busy and actually motivated to improve for once so that may count idk 1 reply
I had a time where I really thought that the best future for everyone in my life was one that was without me. I had a lot of self esteem issues and I couldn’t admit to my family that I was borderline harming myself on purpose. I had no self love for myself and everything and everyone felt disgusting. But that all changed when I fessed up to my ch...... 1 reply
so quarantine helped. umm got in terms with being bi. figured out i am wat you guys would call trashy, I cant understand people's emotions, can barely even feel my emotions. I just do whatever's interesting. figured out I'm not depressed just a little messed up in the head. But a friend really helped. she on the other hand is depressed but it helpe...... reply
It took a while. A lot of it had to do with confidence and self-image.
The process was that I would periodically feel truly inspired by something (people, film, conversations..) and imagine it being a part of my life. I would think about what kind of person I'd be. But whenever I was in these moments, I was never confident. So I'd throw myself ou...... 1 reply
Can’t say if I’ve truly “found myself” but I definitely do have a reason for living now.
Religion. I was raised in a religious household but it wasn’t until about a couple years into my teens that I actually began truly BELIEVING everything about my religion. Learning more and accepting it gave me a purpose in life. I still have things I ...... 2 reply
I think this is a really good question!!
I still haven't found myself, but as I've struggled with life I have noticed that trying your best to accept parts of yourself that you're ashamed of can really help give a clearer sense of self-identity.
For a long time, I never really understood myself. My public personality was often a reflection of trait...... reply
