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Am I a bad friend?
Hi there, so uH.. I think I’m a bad friend.. I hope this doesn’t sound too childish or anything, but I genuinely think so because I often ignore people... not because I hate them or anything, I just.. don’t have the energy in me to reply? I’m often relied on by my friends to vent to and I’m perfectly ok with it. But sometimes, my brain shuts down and I don’t know how to respond and I feel tired. I still care for them, but it feels like my brain ran out of fuel mid conversation.. I have a friend I consider closer than family and she’s been having a rough time lately but I’ve been dodging her calls.. I do want to be there for her but I never know what to say, thus me not accepting her calls.. I feel bad and I don’t know what to do.. in the first place, I can’t really display “happiness”, yes I can smile, but it feels weird, I feel like I’m just copying what others do. I laugh when I hear others laugh, but I don’t know what the joke is. I can’t cry normally, only when I’m under distress or being pressured, if that makes sense.. I didn’t even feel sad when I broke up with my girlfriend even though I felt such joy in the beginning. Was it puppy love?? I don’t understand.. how can I understand emotions?? I hope that didn’t sound too chunni but I need help, I don’t understand myself.. should I admit it truthfully to my friend or should I keep this to myself? I don’t want to put her under more stress.. I can’t even put this on my socials.. aghhh what do I do??? ╥﹏╥
Everyone else seems to be sugar coating it and acting like you did nothing wrong, but let me put it blunt for you. You ARE being a bad friend at the moment, really bad even. A friend "you consider closer than family" has reached out for help and you've blatantly ghosted her. You know what she's probably thinking? Maybe [op's name] doesn't like me??...... 2 reply
Aww darling, you're not a bad friend at all. You're apathetic, a lil like me. Your apathy is more than me in this case lol but don't worry you'll find people like you in life...just stay strong...you can even talk with me cuz I have only time to spend so just chillax reply
I don't think you're a bad friend you're just a bit apathetic so don't feel bad because no one can control their emotions. And btw for your close friend, if she's having a hard time and you don't know what to say, don't ignore her and just be there and listen to her vent. Sometimes people just need to vent and they'll feel a bit better. If you want...... 1 reply
Hello. I'm an individual who, despite being highly empathetic, am an extremely private person. I'm also an ambivert: someone who likes to talk to people, but I still get burnt out. Does any of that sound familiar at all?
It's noble to want to be there for your friends, but a real friend wouldn't want you to burn yourself out for their sake. (If yo...... reply
U r introvert, at seems. It is normal, but not good. U see, everyone s own comfort zone, which they can't easily leave. So need forse. U need to leave it against ur will. And then, u can change. Just try to forse urself to write/contact/meet others. It won't be comfortable, but every such time u ll be change urself. And later u ll find urself free ...... 3 reply
i totally feel you : ( I'm like this with my friend too. Sometimes, I just stop replying to her messages at all cuz i literally have no energy and my brain just stops working all of a sudden. I don't think you are a bad friend. At least that's what I think of myself too. We're all just humans and we all have limits. It's good that you care for your...... 1 reply
oh... OHHHHHHH..... OOOOO-H SHIT YIKES SOMEONE LIKE MEEEEEEEEE I HELLA SCREAMED OUT LOUD GURL.
KUDOS TO BEING WEIRD LIKE ME AHAHHAHAHAHAHAHA
I THOUGHT I WAS ALONE, I DIDN'T THINK I'D FIND SOMEONE LIKE ME ON FRIGGIN MANGAGO OF ALL PLACES WAHHAHAHA 1 reply
You don't have to worry about anything just act the way you feel comfortable if you feel like smiling smile if you feel like crying just cry don't try to fake your emotions to satisfy another person and don't worry about stressing your friends cause friends are made for this not just for joyful moments and if they didn't accept you the way you are...... reply
Go off Mafuyu
But seriously just tell them since ur super close and they'll likely understand, and just try your best to be there even if it's hard 1 reply
