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Has being a fujo/fudan ever taken a toll on your RL relationships?
So this is outta sheer curiosity. I'm a 25 yr-old closeted fujo. Hetero in preference but pretty much asexual in practice. Live in a country where LGBTis frowned upon. At the age where peer and family pressures to go dating and marriage is frustratingly high but I've nvr even dated anyone seriously before. Now when I'm already addicted to BL, always have this worry that any man will be scared off if they knew this hobby of mine. I've also read ppl's experiences when they have to stop reading BL since their partners disagree. I dont think I can do that so I always avoid dating at all cost, but consequently ppl start questioning and even judging me the wrong way. On top of that, it's also hard making friends in RL since BL is the only thing im interested in lmao. What about you guys? Do you have similar experience? How d'you handle it?
Share time.
29 now but in my oh-so-awkward years of teenage-hood....ah...memories.
Tried dating while I was figuring myself out, liked guys and girls. Didn't want a relationship but did at the same time. It was confusing.
Anyway, was secretly dating a guy in high school. Family is old school asian, homos were homos in their eyes and I was the...... reply
I'm a closet otaku/fujoshi as well, and I'm also bisexual. It was tough throughout high school because of my sexuality & my love for anime (as I never told even my best friend that I'm an otaku)
But, when I started university in Canada I met my boyfriend now fiance (who also loves anime) and he understands my sexuality and is open about it. Though...... 1 reply
Sorry in advance for the SUUUPER long reply, but your question grabbed me and slapped me upside the head, so to speak. I can relate.
I became a fujoshi after getting married and before realizing there was even a word for it, lol. I discovered the joy of writing slash fanfics for fantasy. I already loved anime at the time, but hadn't gotten into ya...... reply
My fiance (male) and I (female) have been together for 8 years. During the first couple of years of our relationship, I generally kept my love for the genre to myself. After all, we were a new couple and I was young; I thought I would scare him away. But, overtime, as we grew up and got to know one another more and more, we learned pretty much ever...... reply
I'm a hardcore Fujoshi with no interest in boy-girl or girl-girl relationships, which is the biggest cockblock my love life can have. I'm a strict voyeur...not one of those hetero fujoshis who dreams of being the meat in a Devil's Threesome. Rather than truly adore the love between two men, they just seem to secretly want one or both of the men for...... 1 reply
just reading a few of these responses, i just wanna say do not openly "ship" real life
people-
if you see two guys out on the street talking to one another, don't instantly kick in
"OH BOY- THEY MUST BE GAY BEHIND CLOSED DOORS"
-and if you do, keep it to yourself, its very offensive and rude.
(anything that happens in fiction/fantasy should S...... 1 reply
Only some of my friends know about my yaoi habit. I'd never DREAM of telling my family (mom, sister, etc.), but since I'm married, and don't live with them anymore, that's not a very big deal. My husband doesn't know I read yaoi, or if he does, he hasn't let on that he knows. I don't really have any intention of telling him. It does make me feel a ...... reply
hmm I only have my current BF as an example, but he is totally fine with it I guess. After we got together he saw my Yaoi manga collection so I asked his opinion. He gave me the best answer XD "why should I be against it? I dont have to read it. Its your taste and its ok". Indeed, he is very liberal. Sometimes I make jokes about shipping movie/ man...... reply
All my best friends (all femiles) are fujoshi and we all go crazy if we see a guy in our class be too close to some other guy. We even created a name for the ship and now most of the class ship :3 . I did read my first doujinshi yaoi with my ex-boyfriend and we were both equaly shocked. He was ok with it. My entire family knows too about this and s...... reply
There was one time when the guy I'm currently dating saw me visiting a yaoi group in facebook and he said "Really? You're reading yaoi?" in a bad way so that kinda pissed me off. What pissed me off more is when he said next, "I mean it's okay if it's yuri, but yaoi?" It kinda turned me off. I ignored him and he never said any comment about it again...... 2 reply
