shipping/pressuring real-life people into relationships is intrusive. I'm a fujoshi, and I understand how important it is to differentiate between how we treat fictional characters and actual real-life people. In particular real people who we interact with (aka, non-celebrities, actual friends/acquaintances). It's one thing to ship fictional characters/people you will never meet. But imagine if your friends/family/the people around you were actively shipping you into a relationship that went against your sexuality/personal inclination. Imagine if the people around you were fantasizing about you being in a relationship w/ someone you know but are not attracted to or interested it. That would be hugely uncomfortable.
I can see where you're coming from, and having been shipped with this guy I used to be friends with who made me very uncomfortable (he kept staring at my chest area- I don't got nothin' there, and there ain't gonna be nothin' no matter how long you stare boi), I understand that rush of panic you feel like, "Whoa whoa! I REALLY don't like them like that, STOP please."
But I don't really see the harm as long as you keep it to yourself... And it's not as though you can or should control peoples' thoughts. When I ship people, it is a passing, "Oh, they would look cute together," and I move on with my day. Not an obsession of trying to get them alone together spanning the course of several weeks.
Soooo I guess my general opinion is, 'Feel free to ship them but keep it to yourself and don't try to make anything happen.' Sorry that was kinda long.
Exactly. I've actually have that happen to me a few times. My friends in high school used to ship people and say people looked good together as a couple and it made me really uncomfortable when they said it to me with someone who I was close to but wasn't attracted to in that way. Even when it was a straight ship or according to your sexual orientation it's uncomfortable if you're not attracted to the person in question. Heck, even if you're attracted to the person it makes it awkward if you don't know if the person in question is interested in you as well
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Pardon my uneducated opinion (￣∇￣")-
I can see where you're coming from, and having been shipped with this guy I used to be friends with who made me very uncomfortable (he kept staring at my chest area- I don't got nothin' there, and there ain't gonna be nothin' no matter how long you stare boi), I understand that rush of panic you feel like, "Whoa whoa! I REALLY don't like them like that, STOP please."
But I don't really see the harm as long as you keep it to yourself... And it's not as though you can or should control peoples' thoughts. When I ship people, it is a passing, "Oh, they would look cute together," and I move on with my day. Not an obsession of trying to get them alone together spanning the course of several weeks.
Soooo I guess my general opinion is, 'Feel free to ship them but keep it to yourself and don't try to make anything happen.'
Sorry that was kinda long.
I really like how you put it. I'm rethinking my opinions now.
Exactly. I've actually have that happen to me a few times. My friends in high school used to ship people and say people looked good together as a couple and it made me really uncomfortable when they said it to me with someone who I was close to but wasn't attracted to in that way. Even when it was a straight ship or according to your sexual orientation it's uncomfortable if you're not attracted to the person in question. Heck, even if you're attracted to the person it makes it awkward if you don't know if the person in question is interested in you as well
That's the problem with real-life shipping, it puts pressure on actual real people, not fictional characters.