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How do you comfort someone?
I'm actually someone who doesn't want to care with other people's affairs or problems but because of my conscience, I always end up having to comfort other people. Sometimes it's not even intentional, they just come at me for advice and even cry infront of me. I'm gonna be insensitive about this but on moments like that, I just want to leave and sleep or something. But it's not like I can just do that when someone is hurting. But the thing is, I don't really know what to do. I should listen to them if they have something they wanted to share but what should be my responds be if they full on message me on messenger? If it was in person, I'd hug them to comfort but if it were virtually, how?
Make them feel better by giving them assurance and advice. Sometimes distract them from that problem. As for me, people that come to me said that I was too blunt and honest (cause it hit them where it hurts) I don't really know how to sugarcoat things and just accept the truth no? reply
My pov: I usually am in this situation ppl find me to share their problems. But when they are happy they leave me. They always said this word "I never told this to anyone your the only one I've ever told about this". Usually when your in this situation they actually don't want your opinion on what to do. They just want you to listen. You just gotta...... reply
I just give them advice I guess? Or let them vent and comfort them and sometimes tell sweet nothings to help them cope? I'm really bad at comforting like when (when there's no pandemic yet) my bff was crying cause her dog died I couldn't relate to her and I'm afraid of dogs so I just silently hugged her and let her cry I didn't say anything and jus...... reply
Basically, you listen.
Get them to share what’s on their mind, don’t make it about you (the “oh yeah, I had that even worse” moments suck).
Clarify, reword things to be sure you understand.
Acknowledge their feelings.
Don’t tell them what to do, even if they ask. You are not the problem fixer and “you should/ you need to/ you must�...... reply
