romanticizing rape and abuse

i've noticed that most people on here hate romanticizing rape but are fine with rape rp which is also romanticizing rape?? Rape should never be conflated with consensual sex in any way imo.

if someone told you that their significant other chokes or beats them then you would think that they're being abused right? and if they were to say how they enjoy it you would think that they're sympathizing with their abuser right? but i guess adding sex to it makes it kinky?? w/o the sex isn't it just domestic abuse?? how does sex make it any better??