A genuine question

Hi, i'm sorry but this whole "fetishizing yaoi" thing really confuses me still and so I just want to ask if when you view all sorts of pornographic material as equal, whether it may be straight, lesbian, gay, etc., does it still count as "fetishizing" yaoi? i'm sorry im just really lost about this whole thing. But I don't like it when people glorify(?) yaoi and hate on straight pornographic material for a reason like "it's so basic(or common, boring, etc.)" tho. Can't they just be equal?