I find some women attractive even though I'm a heterosexual woman. I even had a crush on a girl. It doesn't make me question my sexuality. I don't care. If you fall for someone, you fall for person, not for their genitals.
Actually, I can explain your situation pretty well I think.
It's because when you get attracted to someone, there are two factors
(yes two not just sexuality)
Your Sexuality and your Romantic Orientation.
Basically, your sexuality is the physical structure that you get attracted to like vaginas, penises, pecs, boobs, etc.
While romantic orientation is not the physical but the person itself, like their personality, kindness, traits, masculinity, femininity?, etc.
So for me, I'm homosexually biromantic meaning I am attracted to the male body (yes i'm a guy) but I can fall in love with the personality of both females and males.
Yeah this is my "AMAZING" explanation. Though this might have some wrongs since it's been awhile since I saw that vid about this on youtube.
This is a very pansexual/panromantic way to love. Normally I'd say if you do crush on girls and boys, your sexuality belongs somewhere on the specter of LGBTQ. Those on the specter can be quite different as well. We have those who are close to one pole, meaning they mostly fall for either males or females, with the odd crush for the other sex thrown in. Then there are those who are more in the middle and fall roughly for the equal amount of girls and boys. In the end it doesn't really matter (at least in my opinion). Sexuality is something fluid, especially for those on the specter. It can change and twist, it is different for every single person. If you want to be straight, if you want to keep that label that's fine and your choice alone. what I tried to say, was: If you only keeping it because it is the only thing you know, you may miss a nice opportunity. Don't lie to yourself because being hetero is all you know. Maybe someday you will find that it is different and please, when that time comes, please accept yourself. I am not saying that the time will come, or that you must be pan, or whatever else. I am just saying that change in ones sexuality is possible.
I am using myself as a reference here. Until I was 19 I firmly believed myself to be heteroromantic and maybe bi-curious, because this was the way I was raised and everything I knew. Then I fell for a girl, hard, and had to see that maybe I wasn't straight. Time passed I fell for another girl, we had a relationship, we broke up and since than I can't see girls like that anymore. Maybe I erred, maybe I changed. The only thing I am sure of, is, that I learned, that labels can come off easily and that the most important thing is the feeling of love that I feel in the present. You are not me, but if we are somewhat similar, I hope my story and my thought helped you even a little.
Actually, I agree. It's not like I want to keep label. I saw myself as heterosexual because I always fell for guys. First time I fell for woman, I was already in my twenties and I didn't really cared about what that makes me . I can be pansexual, but isn't pansexual just another label?
Actually, I agree. It's not like I want to keep label. I saw myself as heterosexual because I always fell for guys. First time I fell for woman, I was already in my twenties and I didn't really cared about what... Ibite
It isn't necessarily a label unless you think of it as one. For me I just look at it to help translate the current situation to others. It's a lot easier to say you're pan instead of typing out a small paragraph. If you don't feel like "labeling" yourself then that is your preference.
Kisaki Sakura thank you. I was thinking about my pansexuality and I believe it's the right word. I once made a mistake and tries to explain my "friends" ( at least I belived they were my friends) how i feel. They asked me a lot of stupid, inappropriate and untactful questions. So I always said I'm hetero. It was easier. People aren't always nice like you.
Kisaki Sakura thank you. I was thinking about my pansexuality and I believe it's the right word. I once made a mistake and tries to explain my "friends" ( at least I belived they were my friends) how i feel. Th... Ibite
No problem, dear. I know how hard it is to explain over and over again. Especially to people who don't want to understand, or seemingly can't think in a way necessary to understand. It is a tough thing to get your mind behind, if the only thing a person knows is the norm and their own limited feelings. I prefer to hang with LGBT people for the plain reason that most of the time they at least try to understand and are helpful. You will find these people as well, I am sure of it ;) If you think pan is right for you, go with it =)
Maybe, but I think that sexuality cannot be defined easily. I probably shouldn't say I'm hetero. I thought that it helps people understand my situation. Force of habit.
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Actually, I can explain your situation pretty well I think.
It's because when you get attracted to someone, there are two factors
(yes two not just sexuality)
Your Sexuality and your Romantic Orientation.
Basically, your sexuality is the physical structure that you get attracted to like vaginas, penises, pecs, boobs, etc.
While romantic orientation is not the physical but the person itself, like their personality, kindness, traits, masculinity, femininity?, etc.
So for me, I'm homosexually biromantic meaning I am attracted to the male body (yes i'm a guy) but I can fall in love with the personality of both females and males.
Yeah this is my "AMAZING" explanation. Though this might have some wrongs since it's been awhile since I saw that vid about this on youtube.
you could also be bi
This is a very pansexual/panromantic way to love. Normally I'd say if you do crush on girls and boys, your sexuality belongs somewhere on the specter of LGBTQ. Those on the specter can be quite different as well. We have those who are close to one pole, meaning they mostly fall for either males or females, with the odd crush for the other sex thrown in. Then there are those who are more in the middle and fall roughly for the equal amount of girls and boys. In the end it doesn't really matter (at least in my opinion). Sexuality is something fluid, especially for those on the specter. It can change and twist, it is different for every single person. If you want to be straight, if you want to keep that label that's fine and your choice alone.
what I tried to say, was: If you only keeping it because it is the only thing you know, you may miss a nice opportunity. Don't lie to yourself because being hetero is all you know. Maybe someday you will find that it is different and please, when that time comes, please accept yourself.
I am not saying that the time will come, or that you must be pan, or whatever else. I am just saying that change in ones sexuality is possible.
I am using myself as a reference here. Until I was 19 I firmly believed myself to be heteroromantic and maybe bi-curious, because this was the way I was raised and everything I knew. Then I fell for a girl, hard, and had to see that maybe I wasn't straight. Time passed I fell for another girl, we had a relationship, we broke up and since than I can't see girls like that anymore. Maybe I erred, maybe I changed. The only thing I am sure of, is, that I learned, that labels can come off easily and that the most important thing is the feeling of love that I feel in the present.
You are not me, but if we are somewhat similar, I hope my story and my thought helped you even a little.
Actually, I agree. It's not like I want to keep label. I saw myself as heterosexual because I always fell for guys. First time I fell for woman, I was already in my twenties and I didn't really cared about what that makes me . I can be pansexual, but isn't pansexual just another label?
It isn't necessarily a label unless you think of it as one. For me I just look at it to help translate the current situation to others. It's a lot easier to say you're pan instead of typing out a small paragraph. If you don't feel like "labeling" yourself then that is your preference.
Kisaki Sakura thank you. I was thinking about my pansexuality and I believe it's the right word. I once made a mistake and tries to explain my "friends" ( at least I belived they were my friends) how i feel. They asked me a lot of stupid, inappropriate and untactful questions. So I always said I'm hetero. It was easier. People aren't always nice like you.
No problem, dear. I know how hard it is to explain over and over again. Especially to people who don't want to understand, or seemingly can't think in a way necessary to understand. It is a tough thing to get your mind behind, if the only thing a person knows is the norm and their own limited feelings. I prefer to hang with LGBT people for the plain reason that most of the time they at least try to understand and are helpful. You will find these people as well, I am sure of it ;)
If you think pan is right for you, go with it =)
then aren't you just pansexual?
Maybe, but I think that sexuality cannot be defined easily. I probably shouldn't say I'm hetero. I thought that it helps people understand my situation. Force of habit.