Yaoi isn’t representative of how consent works

Think of having s/x/preforming s/xual acts like buying a car.

If you don’t clearly say yes to buying that car, the salesman can’t just force the car on you.

If you are a child you can’t buy a car no matter what.

If you are drunk or under any influence, you clearly aren’t in the right mind to be making such an important decision even if you make it seem like you really want the car.

If you agree to buy a car and then say “wait stop I don’t want the car” the salesman cannot and should not force it on you.

Yaoi isn’t representative of how consent works, that’s why I made my original post. If someone says stop they mean stop. If someone says something they mean it.

For example if you say “stop I don’t want the car”, the salesman can’t assume “well they secretly want the car and they just aren’t telling me”.

That applies to s/x to. Even if they are blushing or “leading you on”. If you don’t hear “yes I want to have s/x with you” from a sober individual, you don’t have consent.

This is why normalized r@pe in yaoi is so harmful. It gives young people f/cked up ideas about what consent means