Why is my country like this?

So basically, if you're a woman and you're dating someone you have to marry that person or you're a s**t. That's why a lot of girls hide the fact that they're dating someone and if someone sees her with a boy everyone will think that she's dating and will spread rumors and ask her when she's getting married.

Se* before marriage is forbidden. You have to offer your virginity to your husband, if not you're a s**t.
Even if you gave your virginity to your fingers you're still considered a s**t.

I hate it here