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Bad Friendships
Heyoo guys, So do all of you also have kinda "bad friends" like they are nice but not really. So my situation: I have a friend since 6th grade she always tell me that I'm her best friend and that we should do things together, but she always do it with other people first which I find kinda disrespectful but I'm not that mad. My birthday was on the 2nd of May and she congratulated me almost at the end of the day, again I was kinda disappointed but what can I do? What makes me really sad is that she throws for "our" other friends(they aren't really my friends, I like them but we sadly don't have much in common) birthday parties. Just small ones not that big but for me she didn’t do it once. I thought that maybe she thinks I wouldn't like it but I honestly told her I would like to celebrate my birthday one time like this. Also I'm strangely never invited lol. She invites people who she doesn't like much but me not and she doesn't even make excuses now. But she isn't the only one another friend of mine is almost the same. She moved to a other city because of university but was here on my birthday, but didn't even wanted to see me. She has a boyfriend and just talks about him the whole time. When both of them call me they don't even ask "hey how are you doing?" They just talk about themselves. I know it sounds kind of childish even more when you consider our ages 19-21. Do y'all also have such "bad" friendship or do you have some tips for me? I told them many times but the are just laughing its kinda frustrating, I don't want to end the friendships but it's not really good for me.
It's tough, but don't worry because you are not alone. Sadly, most of us will be lucky to find a few friends in life who are really good friends that you can trust to support you and genuinely wish you well.
For those friends like you have now, you have two choices really (what you are currently doing is setting yourself up for perpetual disappoi...... reply
It seems that both of you are uninterested in maintaining the relationship. I would sit down with her and gently tell her that this isn’t working out, and continuing to force it will only hurt both of you. (In-person preferably) 1 reply
The world is full of people like that, unfortunately. And no, I don't consider it childish at all to be hurt or disappointed by behavior like that.
The problem is, you're clearly the type to actually take friendship with a person seriously and take the term at face value (which I can very much relate to), while she's apparently more of the type who...... reply
I had this one girl that I knew that i had a few classes with. We would talk about HP since we were both Hufflepuff. She wasn’t really a friend until one day when she started wanting to do everything together.
I didn’t mind at first, but then she started making me uncomfortable. She wanted to play with my hair and hang out with me. I didn’t...... 1 reply
Ok so I do think you should drop them. You don't really deserve to have to go through that and friends are supposed to make you feel good about yourself, not confused and upset. I have 2 but I'm just gonna talk about one.
I had just moved schools, and my mental health got even worse because of it. This girl befriended me, and told me lies about ...... reply
I was in a group of girls, well sorta-
these girls used me as a sort of "mail boy" any time there was drama between them, they sent me to tell the other bitches whats up.
i really dont know how i got out of the group. From my memory i was a little bitch in elementary school. So they probably left me.
I still keep in contact with afew of them... bec...... reply
Well yeah i can relate. I dont even feel like they consider me a friend,just someone who follows them around. Sorry for not giving any tips i dont have any. Im just going to stop talking to them,i'll see if they notice. If they do then maybe they do consider me as a friend,if not then i will just have to move on. 1 reply
