So my mother died around 1 year and 2 months ago, 3 months after that my father remarried, im 24 that time and my older sister is 32, so basically he giving up all he have money, company, car and all he have to us and dont want to take even a single coin at that time. But after he is married suddenly he want my car just because his wife like to ride in it and he want deviden from the company to divided to 3 me, sister and him. And all he ever care about is her new wife and new step children. So he treat me like garbage right now, always saying hurtful thing to me and my sister as if he want his money and all that he have been give to us become him again. I dont know what to do but is it wrong for me and my sister to hate the step mother bcause she is taking my father even when my father have breakfast in our home she seem to hate it, when my father hug me her gaze seem to cursing at me. And the worst is my father dont know how evil her wife is. And she said some lies to my father and a real dramaqueen, and make my sister scolded by my father bcause of that, ee love our father dearly but our father seem to look at us like a burden now, like he is regretting ever have us as a child
I just want to say that if he treats you like that and she treats you worse then I would probably remind him of how it was before, tell him you love him, and tell him how you see it. He probably just doesn't see it from your point of view. If he still doesn't understand then I would tell him that you are not going to reach out to him or return what he already gave but he can still reach out to you and can still talk to you and stuff, but you won't put up with being treated that way.
In short, try to make things better but don't sacrifice your happiness in the process. again this is just my opinion, you don't need to listen to it though. :)
you're not wrong on hating her, she's hateful towards you trying to take everything from you so it only natural for you to resent her back. I have a friend that in a same condition with you, she have a step mother and she's hateful towards my friend and her siblings, even making a fight in between the family purposely. my tips is just be kind towards her, I know it will be hard but if we pay hatred with another hatred it will be a never ending despair for everyone. pay hatred with kindness, give a distance between you and your step mother, stay away so she won't have anything to say about you, move away but pay attention to your father, because in the end of the day, you and your sister will be the most important children for your father.
Well any father like that, is pretty undeserving of your attention. My advice? Leave them to it and move away. You can always video chat your dad or visit on holidays but if I were you, I'd take the money and go. I love my family dearly, but my parents had very rough childhoods which lead them to be emotionally and mentally abusive throughout my life. I love visiting and calling but I am far happier when I'm at least 50 miles away.
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I just want to say that if he treats you like that and she treats you worse then I would probably remind him of how it was before, tell him you love him, and tell him how you see it. He probably just doesn't see it from your point of view. If he still doesn't understand then I would tell him that you are not going to reach out to him or return what he already gave but he can still reach out to you and can still talk to you and stuff, but you won't put up with being treated that way.
In short, try to make things better but don't sacrifice your happiness in the process.
again this is just my opinion, you don't need to listen to it though. :)
you're not wrong on hating her, she's hateful towards you trying to take everything from you so it only natural for you to resent her back.
I have a friend that in a same condition with you, she have a step mother and she's hateful towards my friend and her siblings, even making a fight in between the family purposely. my tips is just be kind towards her, I know it will be hard but if we pay hatred with another hatred it will be a never ending despair for everyone.
pay hatred with kindness, give a distance between you and your step mother, stay away so she won't have anything to say about you, move away but pay attention to your father, because in the end of the day, you and your sister will be the most important children for your father.
Well any father like that, is pretty undeserving of your attention. My advice? Leave them to it and move away. You can always video chat your dad or visit on holidays but if I were you, I'd take the money and go. I love my family dearly, but my parents had very rough childhoods which lead them to be emotionally and mentally abusive throughout my life. I love visiting and calling but I am far happier when I'm at least 50 miles away.