This is what has me worried for straight people. So often, I'll be chatting with a straight friend and all they tell me about their partner are horrible things. And I'm just standing there like 一"Do ya'll even appreciate each other?"
Like no offense, but I've yet to meet straight people who do not talk trash about their partner behind their back. Or worse, people who overshare deeply intimate details of their partner likr personal information/secrets, or even intimacy-related things. And i would like to be able to say that this is a personal values issue, but really, I've had this issue with far more straight people than Queer ones. The closest I've been to this with Queer friends/acquaintances was them confiding into me for advice or sharing worries of sorts. Yet, practically each time that I encounter straight people, it is oversharing upon oversharing, and disrespect upon disrepect.
I can understand being frustrated with them or having an argument to a point, all relationships have their ups and downs. But insulting and complaining non-stop about your partner isn't cute. It's not love to me. It just hits me as two people staying together because they "have" to. Because it "looks proper". I would never even dare to go and badmouth my partner to someone else unless they had done something seriously harmful like abuse or cheat on me. And even then, they wouldn't be my partner anymore anyway. For obvious reasons.
But this is sadly yet another issue that has to do with heteronormative culture. Just take a look at how so many straight couples shown on television hating each other. This is being seen as "relatable" and "funny". It is "normal". "Love eventually fades" kinda thing. If your partner and you are that miserable together, you're clearly not right for each other. Love is an everyday job. There are times you will fall out of love. There is no such thing as a perfect relationship. It is all about keeping on dating your partner, discovering new sides to them, communicating, your feelings are fading? You are doing something wrong. Plain and simple.
You never know all that there is to know about a person. They are ever changing, just as you are. Their views and values will change overtime, just as their likes and dislikes. But also their social circles and habits. You can never truly know "all" about someone. And to appreciate someone fully means to realize this and being okay with it. To enjoy everyday and keep on learning and getting to know one another.
Anyway, I sound like an old man, but my point is, if you are unable to get yourself out of this preconcieved and toxic idea that hating on your partner is "cute" and just "fair play", that oversharing personal information is "normal" and that judging your partner is just a "given"... Then maybe, just maybe, you should just stay single until you sort your own damn life out.
A lot of straight men grow up with a sense of superiority over women. It's often not about how much they like women but a lot about how much they can use women. Even nowadays, even in so called modern countries. I even feel like it's progressing in a worse direction again but that might just be my paranoid self.
Agreed. I feel like most of these men don’t see us as fellow human beings but as objects. I mean the look at the last picture and how he is objectifying his girlfriend
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This is what has me worried for straight people.
So often, I'll be chatting with a straight friend and all they tell me about their partner are horrible things. And I'm just standing there like 一"Do ya'll even appreciate each other?"
Like no offense, but I've yet to meet straight people who do not talk trash about their partner behind their back. Or worse, people who overshare deeply intimate details of their partner likr personal information/secrets, or even intimacy-related things. And i would like to be able to say that this is a personal values issue, but really, I've had this issue with far more straight people than Queer ones. The closest I've been to this with Queer friends/acquaintances was them confiding into me for advice or sharing worries of sorts. Yet, practically each time that I encounter straight people, it is oversharing upon oversharing, and disrespect upon disrepect.
I can understand being frustrated with them or having an argument to a point, all relationships have their ups and downs. But insulting and complaining non-stop about your partner isn't cute. It's not love to me. It just hits me as two people staying together because they "have" to. Because it "looks proper". I would never even dare to go and badmouth my partner to someone else unless they had done something seriously harmful like abuse or cheat on me. And even then, they wouldn't be my partner anymore anyway. For obvious reasons.
But this is sadly yet another issue that has to do with heteronormative culture. Just take a look at how so many straight couples shown on television hating each other. This is being seen as "relatable" and "funny". It is "normal". "Love eventually fades" kinda thing. If your partner and you are that miserable together, you're clearly not right for each other. Love is an everyday job. There are times you will fall out of love. There is no such thing as a perfect relationship. It is all about keeping on dating your partner, discovering new sides to them, communicating, your feelings are fading? You are doing something wrong. Plain and simple.
You never know all that there is to know about a person. They are ever changing, just as you are. Their views and values will change overtime, just as their likes and dislikes. But also their social circles and habits. You can never truly know "all" about someone. And to appreciate someone fully means to realize this and being okay with it. To enjoy everyday and keep on learning and getting to know one another.
Anyway, I sound like an old man, but my point is, if you are unable to get yourself out of this preconcieved and toxic idea that hating on your partner is "cute" and just "fair play", that oversharing personal information is "normal" and that judging your partner is just a "given"... Then maybe, just maybe, you should just stay single until you sort your own damn life out.
men(mostly straight lol) are disgusting pieces of shiet is all im gonna say...
A lot of straight men grow up with a sense of superiority over women. It's often not about how much they like women but a lot about how much they can use women. Even nowadays, even in so called modern countries. I even feel like it's progressing in a worse direction again but that might just be my paranoid self.
Agreed. I feel like most of these men don’t see us as fellow human beings but as objects. I mean the look at the last picture and how he is objectifying his girlfriend
im so glad im not straight
Istg most of them are 13 year olds
I don’t think so? Men in general love to hate on women