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advice pls
i don't know where to ask this, so I'll just ask here, i guess?? tw: mentions of suicidal thoughts
i have this friend that's very depressed and suicidal.. he is always talking bad about himself and about how he wants to kill himself. it doesn't matter what i say to him, he'll always try to argue about why dying is the answer to his problems, and everytime, i end up getting pulled down into that kind of thinking too. it's very difficult to just talk to him because he always twists it into something negative.. I'm trying to help him, but it's difficult for me because when he talks about suicide and death, i always get those thoughts too.. i also struggle with depression/suicidal thoughts/anxiety/etc, so i know it's difficult for him, but i can't take being pulled down by him when we talk.. I'm really struggling.. i don't know what i should do. i don't want to hurt his feelings by stopping myself from talking to him since he's always saying that nobody ever stays with him and always leaves him
i said he could talk to me about what he goes through, but i don't know if i can handle it anymore.. this might just be selfish of me, but he really puts a damper on the mental health I'm trying to maintain for myself.. what should i do?
That’s a relatable struggle, I have a couple of ideas you can try.
Give your friend some concrete help, eg: “Here is lifelines phone number.” Hand over a piece of paper with numbers. “I am here for you, but I am not a counsellor, I can only help you so far. Call the number now and I will sit with you for moral support.”
Dial the number ...... 2 reply
I think u should be staright with him n tell him his negative way of thinking is the reason ppl r leaving him , yes, he is struggling, but so r u, just as u feel guilty for leaving him alone when he is struggling, u should feel guilty for making urself go thru shit too, ik I may sound harsh , but u r ur first priority. Talking to ppl who go thru ...... reply
i think you should focus on your mental health atm. tell him this, that you need time for yourself. hopefully he will not be one of the people that call you selfish because you're pitting your health first. i don't really know how to solve the issue with your friend but help yourself first because you won't be able to help him well if you don't fee...... reply
Babes this is by no means selfish of you! The fact that you even tried to help goes to show that. But don't help someone at the cost of your own mental wellbeing. Even if you told him before you would listen and try to help it is more than ok to tell them that "I can't do this anymore it's starting to now effect me." Now I don't wanna seem like I'm...... reply
