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Queer impostor syndrome?
So I recently started identifying as pansexual after identifying as bisexual for quite a while. But I have only recently come out online as being anything but straight. I don’t have anyone around me irl who is lgbt so I have been kind of trying to navigate on my own in secret, as I know many others have.
I struggle with this idea that I don’t feel like I am truly a part of the community, I guess? Like sometimes I feel like because I have the potential to be happy in a straight relationship, that I’m an imposter to the queer community...
I’m curious to know if anyone else who is bi/pan (or any other sexuality) has felt the same way before? Or am I just overly paranoid lol
i've went through lots of labels while questioning my identity and this is a pretty common experience. theres no right way to be queer and if you feel like you are part of the community, then you are part of the community. just because you can be in a straight relationship doesnt mean that you are not queer!! as long as your experience with sexuali...... reply
the possibility of being in a straight relationship doesnt make u an imposter. struggling in figuring out ur sexuality is ok and being unsure doesnt invalidate that u are truly a part of lgbtq+ community. ur environment mustve shaped a lot of ur self perception but if u are attracted to both men and women, two or more genders then ur probably bisex...... 2 reply
Reading all these answers is really reassuring. I feel like my biggest thing is feeling “worthy” of the community. Because of my ability to have a heterosexual relationship I feel like somehow that invalidates all of those in lgbtq+ who have struggled and fought for their place in the world. I don’t know... anyway, I gotta thank you guys for ...... reply
..? The potential to be in a heterosexual relationship isn't a disqualifier. Sometimes y'all make this more complicated than it really is.
If you're alloromantic, allosexual, cisgender, heterosexual, and heteroromantic, then you're not lgbt+. If you have even just one of those boxes unchecked, then you are. That's literally all there is to it. Nei...... 1 reply
I'm bi and from the beginning of figuring everything out to still today, I feel that way. At first, I was alone with no one to help me, I felt like maybe I was tricking myself into feeling that way just for attention. It sucked to feel that way. Now it's mainly with my gender. I'm genderfluid and I have moments where I wonder if I actually am or if...... 1 reply
same lol it took me a long time to figure out if I was part of the community or not. I thought I was bi, but it feels a lot more confusing so I just slapped the queer label in there since I know I’m not entirely straight. I have friends who are part of the lgbt but I never came out to them nor asked for help bc it felt like I was just trying to j...... 1 reply
Hello! So for your question, I also feel that way at some points, there are times I question it cause I kinda feel like I'm panromantic or ace, idk really cause I haven't been with serious relationship before and I'm still trying to figure it out. Well, sexuality can change as we grow older trying to know ourselves so there's no rush to get the res...... 1 reply
Trust me I feel the same way I used to identifying as bisexual until I realized I was pansexual u are NOT alone I'm sure their are others that feel the same way but doesn't wanna tell anyone yet reply
You're not an imposter in the queer community, even if you're happy in a "straight" relationship it doesn't change that you're pansexual and belong in the LGBT+ community. :)
I'm not bi or pan but I've had a similar experience with my sexuality. It took me until earlier this year to finally figure out that I was asexual because I had so many doub...... 1 reply
