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say that your partner cheated on you after you devoted your life to be with compared with your parents saying that after you said no to a request, the latter is controlling whereas the former is seen as honesty. 1 reply
honestly its just pure red flags for manipulation, guilt tripping, and gaslighting. anyone who says that is probably not a good person... look at the signs and save yo self yall!! 1 reply
Yeah for example my parents. When I do something they don't like they use the "After all I've done for you, put a roof over your head, put food on the table, gave birth to you..." like I didn't fucking ask to be born. That's your job as a parent to take care of your child. What do you want me to do? Pay your bills just so you can take care of me?
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I think it depends.... If someone shows you kindness I think you should reciprocate that.... But if they wanna run your life that's a big no...... reply
Hard to say without more context.
They could be that sort who give a lot and think you are selfish and taking them for granted. That’s my first thought.
Or, they could simply feel unappreciated.
But if you feel it’s used for control then you probably have your reasons knowing the people who said it and the situation reply
I think they are trash.
Don't get me wrong. If other people say it, it's okay to point out. So, for example, if someone I know was raised with utmost care and sacrifice, by their parents or someone else, and they were being complete pissweeds and disregard all of that with their behaviour, it would be okay for me to point out and rub it in their f...... reply
