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Tutor is upset cause I won’t study with him alone for safety!?
So my tutor and I was discussing about what time he wil come to my home to tutor me. I told him he can come at 9-10 am. Then I was talking to myself that my dad is gonna be home at that time so it’s ok. Then he asked me why cant he can tutor me if I'm alone. I told him for safety reason. Then he got really upset. I told him I didn’t mean it like that and said I'm sorry if it hurt his feelings. Then he was silent for a long time. ( He is very talkative and It was super akward) Then he told me I think too negatively and he was hurt. Then he was going on about how long we know each other. I said he taught me for like 2 years.. He said It’s the way I said it I was too straight forward. It’s kinda weird because like I'm a teenage girl so it’s obvious that a person who is not related to me can't enter the house when I'm home alone.. It is a ridiculous question why he can't tutor me when I'm alone. Then he gets upset when I tell him it’s for safety. And tells me I'm too negative. Like no I'm not.. I already experienced men being absolute creeps.. Whould you be upset if you were in my tutor's place? I don’t get what I did wrong, he looked really sad when he left so..
Honestly if I thought of you like a sibling or something similar, I would be sad yk. Cuz like I feel like a family but then you took me as someone who would do something bad to you but then again, I get the safety reason thing because I too am a girl. So it's understandable to me cuz it's something we are concious about but guys don't get it cuz th...... 5 reply
It’s weird he got upset just because you want to be safe, or don’t want to be alone with him. He behaves like a child. He should understand why you’re weary. I personally understand you since I had men who I trusted harass and stalk me, I once heard two of my male friends talking about my body behind my back in a gross way. Additionally I get...... 1 reply
The fact that people are telling her to apologize is fucking crazy?? Idgaf if I knew a man for two years, even if he is my tutor, if I'm uncomfortable about being alone with someone ofc I'm going to say it to their face?? If you were to say, "Oh well my dad wouldn't like that" or "Well my family.." Then he's going to think it's fine if your family ...... 1 reply
NOPE.
You did NOTHING wrong. NOTHING.
I'm an adult man and a teacher. Not only should he be MORE THAN OK with you wanting to ensure your safety, HE should be encouraging you to do so as well.
As harsh as it may sound, his feelings do not matter when it comes to your safety. You are absolutely correct and should aggressively disregard any of the ...... reply
So I told my family about it. They were freaked out and told me it’s not normal for a tutor to ask why they can't be alone with a child with no parents or guardians around. When everyone knows the answer. He as an adult should understand and not question me. And I was logical to refuse him. They said the tutor stayed silent to guilt trip me. They...... 5 reply
Gurl
U did the right thing. Its better to be safe than sorry. If he pesters u more about it, tell ur father about it.
Its never okay to trust an unknown man so blindly. Just because he knew u for 2 years, that doesnt mean he is a safe person. You can't even trust men related u these days, let alone a stranger. reply
ngl I would do the exact same thing. Safety reasons is SO important, and especially for women. My sister and I were not allowed to go for sleepovers to friends houses or outings if there weren't enough people we were close to. Each person has different boundaries that we draw for safety, and they are reasonable, and the boundary that you have set i...... 1 reply
Nah id do the same as you, there's now three option of what's gonna happen. Now since idk the full circumstances of it idk what to make of his response BUT if he doesn't realize your standing and worries and just move on from this xhole deal soon then either he's childish, he got extremely offended (due to your history of him teaching you etc) or h...... reply
You're on the right track. My parents have cameras installed around the house and inside the house for security, to keep us all safe. My parents also have location tracking on our devices (my siblings and I) for security.
I went to extra classes after school from Mon-Fri in big classrooms, some in small groups, and also had one on one private les...... reply
