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Do you believe that long term male friendships can last?
I was thinking back to alot of my male mates Ive had and I started realising that alough I have had more guy mates than girls, they were either not as close as initially thought or that alot of them never seemed to last that long. This being due to us losing touch, crushes or complications from relationships with each other or others. In the end I have stuck with more of my gf as the years have gone by and had stronger/longer bonds with them.
As I once held such a strong view on this idea of u can have real male friends to the point I never thought I would have proper friends with girl(s), i wondered if other ppl agree with that u can have a true friendship with the opposite gender, or if their opinion has changed over time, or if it just a matter of who u meet ect...
This is speaking as a straight female just to give the idea of the perspective as to some of it I have said btw
Oof, I hear ya girl.
I've lost so many guy friends due to weird crushes on both ends, jealous/insecure girlfriends, losing touch, etc, yet with my girlfriends we've stuck through thick and thin for YEARS.
So I have a two part answer:
1) Guys are societally told not to express emotions/not be as willing to reach out in times of distress which d...... reply
i get you so much. as a fellow girl who'd love to have more guy friends, sadly it isn't simple, easy or long-lasting.
i think the reason why we cant be friends with guys very well, is because you're socially pressured or what not. like "ooh, are they dating?..." blah blah blah, rumors, or like "guys are girls cant be friends without it being roman...... 1 reply
Of course you can have meaningful friendships of the opposite sex. This is coming from a lesbian female, most of my friends have been men throughout my life. But I also have friends that are female and my relationship with them have been no different. I think there's a definite stigma against same sex friendships based on heteronormative and cisnor...... reply
