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How to make friends in college?
Im having difficulties bonding with my classmates since our interests doesn't align. I don't know what else to talk about other else than school, they're into K-pop, and tiktok dances and I'm into reading, and anime. Since I've watched a bit of kdrama and them also, I try to talk about it with them but they arent really interested.
Doesnt really help that there's a bit of a language barrier, I dont know how to authentically express my thoughts and opinions so I end up sounding awkward..
If their interests don’t align with yours it’s going to be harder to find common ground with them. I’m not saying you can’t be their friend but don’t try to force something that’s not rlly there to begin with. That may be the reason why it feels so awkward to talk to these people, you’re not being your natural self with them! I recomm...... reply
You don’t have to force urself to fit in w others. You’ll eventually meet someone who you’ll eventually meet someone who has stuff in common w you. I personally think being urself can help attract genuine people. But I wish you luck in making friends! ٩(๑❛ᴗ❛๑)۶ reply
Listen to them if they ever talk to you, give them the most basic answers, what they may expect to hear. After a while, add an "opinion", a common one so they can feel related to. Laugh a little if they do. Dont talk about yourself until they ask you to (Ik it sounds bad, but it is just at the start). Eventually, if the mood is right: talk more, so...... reply
Joining clubs should be an easy way to make contact with others; if you're in the early years of your college(idk how it works other places) there should be more common classes that you take. reply
friends are good to have around, but honestly dont force yourself to try and find someone if your not comfortable. being by yourself is just as fine - people find it embarrassing for some reason but it never really is, its never that deep honestly and your own company is way better than being with someone who half-asses energy into talks. i prefer ...... 1 reply
I don't know for you, but for me, I don't bother I just do things my way without caring what others think. Cause I believe that friendship isn't forced, just be yourself those who'd want to associate with you will always approach and try to communicate with you. It's been working so well for me since highschool till University now
Though I'm not ...... reply
Tbh is a hit or miss, I got used to start conversations with everyone and anyone. Even if you dont have common grounds it doesnt hurt to have acquaintances and conexions between your department (also helps to not be completely alone in certain classes and have people you know for group projects). And the more you have, the more chances to meet othe...... reply
If nothing helps then force yourself into somewhere. You don't have to be besties for life with those people just find a group that at least has a bit of a common ground with you. From my experience it's much easier to meet new people if your already doing it with a group; getting invited to get-togethers, meeting their friends or going to events t...... reply
