Anyone else dislike pussy in yaoi?

I mean this with no hate to anyone but recently there is a rise in yaoi where ukes have a vagina... ever since I was a kid I have been avoiding straight romances or anything that involves straight sex because it seemed so yucky to me yaoi became my safe space but nowadays yaois also have started to add vaginas? Its weird because not everything needs to have a pussy i mean even fanfics of dramas where original characters have dicks now have pussies? It triggers me so badly and I absolutely hate it. Its just that it feels like my safe space is being violated. Again, no hate to anyone but its weird that everything is being changed to cater to a certain kind of audience and feels lowkey homophobic because wdym dick and pussy belong together but not dick and ass?