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Am i still a victim?
I was 14 and my s/o was 19, it's just 5 years so it wasn't bad for me and I was the one to pursue them most of times. Our relationship was going well till things became sexual and he insisted it was okay for me to do it cause we've been together for 5 months and it was "normal" for ppl who are lovers. At first I didn't want to but later on, I accepted and I actually felt good for all those nights but then he got more and more demanding. I felt bad that if I didn't do it , it meant I don't love him. I was disgusted of myself for a long time till then he broke up with me. I felt like I was only used for my body. I was the first one to pursue them, I did the first move and all but I feel disgusted. It wasn't like he agreed immediately, we were in a situation ship till I was 15.
Ignoring the age gap, because everyone already commented on that, sex is something that should be mutually agreed upon to make it consensual. Sex is a BIG part in making a relationship work, but isn’t the ONLY part. If your s/o demands sex constantly, and you are unwilling to put out, there is a way to find a middle group. And if said partner is ...... reply
YES!!! Even if a minor persues them it's the adult's responsibility to reject them. I mean they shouldn't even be interested in the first place. It's not 'just' 5 years, at that age it's a BIG age gap, even worse because the guy is actually a legal adult, it's not the same as two partners being for example 45 and 50, or even just 25 and 30. I mean,...... reply
5 years isn't much a difference only when you are both adults. It's different when one is a child. You were a child and they were an adult. It was their job to say no not to give in. He shouldn't have been dating you let alone more than that. I'm not sure how old you are, but when you get to that age you'll realize how disgusting it is.
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Yes, you are the victim. I'm really sorry that happened to you, and I hope you're doing okay now. That man is DISGUSTING. Even if u were the one who pursued most of the times, he was 19, he should've known better than to go for a child. And not only that, he also knew u were a minor and still went ahead and did sexual things with u. No one should e...... reply
