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Insecurity
Hey y'all! This is a bit vulnerable and embarrassing to admit, but I have been dealing with a bout of crippling low self esteem lately. I cannot, for the life of me, find myself attractive. What is making it a bit worse than usual atm is one of my friends is VERY beautiful and a wonderful person. She constantly gets approached and complemented by everyone she meets. I cannot help (DESPITE HATING MYSELF FOR DOING THIS), but feel a bit bad for myself after being overlooked and ignore over and over repeatedly. And, I mean repeatedly -I have lost count at the number of times. I know this is my own issue, and I am in no way blaming my friend at all btw! If anyone has any advice on how to deal with this in a healthier way- pls lmk! It just makes me feel like no matter what I wear, what makeup I do, ect.- It's never enough yk. I'd also like to add that I am 23 with NO relationship experience which I suppose makes me want it more idk :( PS. I am asking on here bc i cannot afford therapy lmao. Please be nice
1. play with your appearance, try hairstyles you've never done, makeup styles, outfits (but don't start overbuying random stuff, just mix up ur style a bit), and you'll be surprised how some styles may really suit you. key is to HAVE FUN, don't think of it as ur changing ur features, but figuring out how to show them off!
2. do more self care rou...... 1 reply
I’ve also been struggling with this as many other women who I hang out with occasionally are always complimented and I am also essentially ignored. It just always comes with a twang of sadness when it happens. And that’s normal, don’t worry.
Honestly, the only thing to do if you really want to feel better about yourself is to change how you...... 1 reply
That really sucks but there's no advice that could be given unless you decide to stop centering males over your own friendship. You don't know these men. Not that I'm a know-it-all, but I don't think these men are top tier or have the face and body of young Christian Bale. Of course I won't hate on you for wanting attention, it's a human thing, eve...... reply
my approach is stop thinking that I'm ugly (hardest part tbh still struggle with it) and be delusional. being a bit mentally ill to be mentally better is a great advice here
i change my appearance a bit. shorter fluffy hair, glasses, comfortable clothes that I like, a bit of lip tint so I don't look as lifeless and it already improving how I feel ...... reply
