OKAY SO I'm bisexual with a GF we're both wlw, but the thing is I feel like what I feel for her is not enough?? Although I always feel that way whenever I have a crush but one common problem denominator I have with all of them is their gender.
For example I'm usually only attracted to boys sexually ive never actually fallen jnlove with a guy but I know its possible since I'm fully aware that I'm sexually attracted to them
But when it comes to girls I'm usually never sexually attracted to them yall get me? I can only fall inlove with girls but with a curse where I cant see myself being in a sexual act with her. I dont know what's wrong with me so don't even bother asking that's what I currently feel towards my gf
I already told her about this and she didn't mind at all but I feel like im nkt giving her enough love because I cant see her In a sexual light while im over here jerking off to fictional dicks I FEEL BAD OKAY I JUST CANNOT CKNTROL MY SEXUAL URGES I've never really found another woman's body that sexually attractive but I can fully love girl. I love my gf with all my heart i swear, I can kiss her and definitely hug her but having sex is just idk. It's definitely possible but im not sure if I can get horny or shit
Human attraction is messy. People like to pretend it comes in neat little boxes with labels that behave logically. It does not. What you are describing is actually a pattern many people experience: romantic attraction and sexual attraction are not always aligned. Some people fall deeply in love with one gender but feel sexual desire toward another. It does not make you dishonest, broken, or unfair. It simply means your emotional and physical responses follow different paths.
Loving someone is not measured by whether you can imagine them in a sexual scenario. Love shows up in the quiet things: the way you care about her feelings, the honesty you gave her when you explained your confusion, and the fact that you are worried about hurting her in the first place. Someone who truly lacked love would not be sitting there wrestling with guilt about it. The concern you feel is already evidence that your affection is real.
Desire itself is strange and often impersonal. Bodies react to stimuli, fantasies, images, or situations that do not always reflect the people we actually want to build a life with. A person can be sexually stimulated by something abstract or fictional and still reserve their deepest emotional devotion for a real human being standing beside them. The brain separates those circuits far more often than people like to admit.
What matters most is the honesty between you and your partner. You told her the truth, and she chose to accept it. That means she values the connection you share beyond just the physical dimension. Relationships are negotiated spaces; every couple decides for themselves what intimacy looks like, what boundaries exist, and what kind of closeness makes them feel fulfilled.
You are not failing her simply because your attraction expresses itself differently than you expected. The real failure would be pretending to feel something you do not. What you are doing instead is harder and far more respectful: you are being truthful while still choosing to love her fully in the ways that come naturally to you.
In the end, love is not proven by the heat of desire, but by the courage to remain honest, gentle, and present for someone’s heart. And sometimes the purest kind of love is the one that chooses truth, even when it would be easier to pretend. ╰(⸝⸝⸝´꒳`⸝⸝⸝)╯
i dont think its bad or anything its just really important that you are honest with her and she knows about your preferences too maybe you should ask her to peg youヾ(❀╹◡╹)ﾉ~
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try once, doesn't work, say it truthfully
Human attraction is messy. People like to pretend it comes in neat little boxes with labels that behave logically. It does not. What you are describing is actually a pattern many people experience: romantic attraction and sexual attraction are not always aligned. Some people fall deeply in love with one gender but feel sexual desire toward another. It does not make you dishonest, broken, or unfair. It simply means your emotional and physical responses follow different paths.
Loving someone is not measured by whether you can imagine them in a sexual scenario. Love shows up in the quiet things: the way you care about her feelings, the honesty you gave her when you explained your confusion, and the fact that you are worried about hurting her in the first place. Someone who truly lacked love would not be sitting there wrestling with guilt about it. The concern you feel is already evidence that your affection is real.
Desire itself is strange and often impersonal. Bodies react to stimuli, fantasies, images, or situations that do not always reflect the people we actually want to build a life with. A person can be sexually stimulated by something abstract or fictional and still reserve their deepest emotional devotion for a real human being standing beside them. The brain separates those circuits far more often than people like to admit.
What matters most is the honesty between you and your partner. You told her the truth, and she chose to accept it. That means she values the connection you share beyond just the physical dimension. Relationships are negotiated spaces; every couple decides for themselves what intimacy looks like, what boundaries exist, and what kind of closeness makes them feel fulfilled.
You are not failing her simply because your attraction expresses itself differently than you expected. The real failure would be pretending to feel something you do not. What you are doing instead is harder and far more respectful: you are being truthful while still choosing to love her fully in the ways that come naturally to you.
In the end, love is not proven by the heat of desire, but by the courage to remain honest, gentle, and present for someone’s heart. And sometimes the purest kind of love is the one that chooses truth, even when it would be easier to pretend. ╰(⸝⸝⸝´꒳`⸝⸝⸝)╯
i dont think its bad or anything its just really important that you are honest with her and she knows about your preferences too
maybe you should ask her to peg youヾ(❀╹◡╹)ﾉ~