i thought men could do better

got into an argument with 3 guys because their friend was ''abused'' by me because i fought back when he was the one who approached me and called me slurs AND to kms. they start saying bullshit stuff like ''you're a girl he can say slurs u can't call him an asshole and a dick'' and ''i've never met a girl who talks like this'' ''he maintained his language while you used innappropriate language'' for calling him an asshole and a dick. it literally felt like i was talking to a bunch of toddlers omgg and a girl was defending them saying i was annoying or smt like what?? and mind you these people were my classmates for 3 whole years. I never thought men ACTUALLY act like this...i felt so helpless the whole time in the arguement