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Why do parents reward their children only when they are good?
I know I am quite childish....teen rant ahead. Please ignore it you don't like this type of stuff So basically in my country I am in 12th grade right now and I have my entrance exams next year. In 10th I was kinda like a topper and scored high marks. Many of my friends used to talk about how there parents would scold them for their marks and stuff and I never really understood them, I always told them how our parents love us and want our future to be good and my parents had always told me that marks don't define a person and I could be whatever I want. They gave me a huge cake after my 10th final exams. I love science so I chose that stream and 11th is difficult so my grades dropped a bit (borderline B)...my parents asked me everyday if I didn't feel like studying anymore and that I should study more. I could have told them that 11th was a bit tougher and I was getting acquainted with it but the image I had of them just shattered...I felt like they didn't love me anymore (ik they still do but...) and other stuff had also happened before (maybe some other day). I didn't get any cake that year. I really love science and I feel like I will come to hate it if this continues. With all this corona stuff schools have closed and I feel really bad at home. I don't know what to do. I just wanted to rant somewhere so...sorry if this was too long Do share your experiences and if there are any parents on this site please correct me if you think that I am wrong.
Well everyone, every human have their own perspective of discipline, or how they raise their child, or atleast perspective on everything, but everyone is influenced by the ones surrounding them, some may change their mind through what they see or hear...... And I've experienced, or have read some people's perspective of everything through myself, p...... reply
Well the world isn’t kind and you should be lucky to have a warm loving family. I’m pretty sure your parents are worried of you getting infected by people sickness or illegal dealings. Maybe try to talk to your parents about it and try to listen to their opinion / point of view. Don’t worry about the cake. It’s common for parents treating k...... reply
I'll take this question like a rant, just like you said at the end, and not like an actual question because... well... it'obvious.
Maybe you won't care about it, but I want to write about the problem with sciences. Don't be upset. It happens multiple times. You have good grades, then you change your subject and then they start worsening. The same ...... reply
Talk to your parents about this, otherwise nothing will change
Tell them how you feel, honestly. (i have a strict dad who frowns at me even when i get a 90)
Have confidence while and after you did it
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being honest, it's only natural. positive reinforcement for good behavior, and negative for not; life will always be like that, and parents do that as well; not sure about cake, but that hit can be devastating;
its about expectations, but how strict they are on that changes how your childhood and young adult life experience and will effect you in ...... reply
For the question in the title, because receiving rewards for doing something well encourages children to continue to to do well and not giving a reward, usually, encourages children to work harder so they get the reward next time. Also, rewards can't always be given when you know there is room for improvement.
As for your parents, talk to them abo...... reply
To re-enforce how a person should act. Rewarding them is the best way to promote good behaviour, just like smacking them is the way to enforce that bad behaviour isn’t right. 1 reply
