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opinions about rejection
Ok guys hear me out, so let’s say you’re proposing or asking someone to be your partner right, but you are making this grande so its on a stage, at a busy fancy restaurant or whatever. Like for me whenever i see rejections like that i have this thought of why would anyone do that. Like obviously you guys have a solid relationship for the other partner to have the courage to ask that question, but if you’re going to reject it why embarrass them in that moment rather than go along and explain later on your rejection and why you feel that way.
Disagree completely. If someone is gonna put you on the spot in a public space, then they can also handle the public rejection. The idea that the relationship must be strong for the other person to propose is also very naive. The majority of rejections are from people who propose without ever talking to their partner about marriage or their future....... reply
Just because someone rejected someone's big and grand proposal, doesn't mean you know anything about either partners at all. If someone were to put you and themselves In a huge crowded place, it's basic peer pressure to accept. Because they know themselves(the person proposing) people will talk shit about you if you reject later on, it doesnt matte...... reply
I don't agree with this , most ppl go for that for the peer pressure. It will make someone say yes out of being scared and publicly humiliating you like that. I don't blame people who rejects because that's them. reply
Are you aware the sheer amount of times people (men) do this in public to pressure their partner into accepting
Unless you previously discussed proposals and are aware of your partner's feelings on it, ill take it as manipulation tactic.
"Why embarrass them in that moment" yep, thats exactly why peopledo it, bc if they (rightfully so) reject it th...... reply
I think proposing is something that needs to be talked about beforehand so you are sure everyone's on the same page.
Not everyone wants to get married, so that should be talked about at the begging of dating someone. There are other things to consider like if that's a good time to get married, maybe one feels that financially they aren't on a rig...... 1 reply
doing it out in public where all eyes are on you can be stressful. i dont blame the people who end up running away.
it happens a lot because the person whos getting proposed, can feel forced to say yes infront of so many people.
just think about how thatd make you feel. :) reply
Proposals shouldn’t even be public.
That should be a private affair between partners, nobody but them really cares anyway.
And if it’s a grand display and the other person gets rejected, well they should have thought about that probability.
Even if the other person wants to say yes, they might freak out and say no because it’s in public. reply
