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pls give some relationship advice
So like this is my first relationship at 23y.o, so my partner before we confirmed our feelings for each other and made it official, we went to a pool party two days before and got super drunk and high. The issue is I have a a bad habit of kissing people on the cheek whether they are nice or not, so this guy let's call him L, he is a cheater and flirts with a whole lot of people he was there at the party (he was lowkey interested in me but not really) and I have bitched about him with my partner before, but idk what happened few days ago my partner heard that I kissed the L guy, I have 0 memory of doing that like none at all and one of my other guy friend also said that L has a video of me kissing L on the cheek apparantly (i personally have not seen the video). My partner is very sad to hear that I kissed L , they said we shared so many romantic moments together and did so much and i talked about my fear of being cheated on and stuff. I honestly don't know how to react to this, is this cheating idk i really do like my partner and we've been dating for almost a month but rn it's long distance. Please suggest me something so that I can come to conclusion and talk about this clearly cuz i really don't know how to react to this situation. I'm so tired of feeling guilty when I myself don't clearly know what I have done when I was drunk even my partner doesn't remember most of that night becuz we were so damn drunk. Any tips will be appreciated. Sorry for the long ass paragraph but I just had to add all the details just in case. Thank you and i really appreciate yall for reading this
Not cheating. It'd be good for you to make it clear to your partner that you have no recollection of it since you were drunk. Let them know about your drunk habit (if I understood it right) and assure them that you will be mindful of not getting too drunk in the future. I can see why they are upset and how confused you may be feeling as well. All y...... reply
Sounds like that cheater set you up. They were even ready with the camera when you kissed their cheek.
I don’t blame your partner for feeling upset though, wouldn’t you feel the same?
If you tend to do this under the influence of alcohol, own it. Tell your partner you messed up and figure out ways to prevent it in the future.
Guilt is a very ...... reply
Both of your feelings are valid. You're certainly NOT a cheater: there was zero intent to cheat, it's your drunk habit, you literally have no recollection of doing it, and most of all it's a kiss on the cheek that was meant to be completely platonic (I say this as someone who lives in a country where, as much as I hate it, kissing other people on t...... reply
Why are they not showing u the video lmao.. they should at least show u the footage, like, u clearly don't remember anything, they should at least show some evidence so you can access the situation better reply
